Tag: work-life balance

All The Things I Worry About

I was very happy on Sunday, when I returned to Chicago: it was so warm! I went for a long bike ride, and then to the market, and then to the beach, and then we all gathered to celebrate Igor’s birthday.

And then, the reality hit. There were several unexpected things at work (I can’t go into details here, but I expected something to be done while I was away, and it was not, so I could not keep my promise to the customer to finish something else, and it was all extremely stressful).

Next, all things in Chicago that are going wrong: I learned about the exhibit of power in the Loop over the weekend, and about multiple horrible things that happened, and about the new threat from Trump to go to war with Chicago (and I am still paralyzed with uncertainty).

And then, another set of troubles with Prairie Postgres registration. As it turned out, the Charitable Bureau sent us a letter on September 11, and this letter got lost. I am glad I figured out that was the case, but now we need to pay the late registration fee and submit a whole bunch of new paperwork along with all the “old” ones.

I am very close to saying it’s too much for me to handle, which makes me feel even worse because other people around me have more serious problems to solve.

On the brighter side, my almost three-week-long case with Eventzilla tech support was finally resolved. Things are not working perfectly, but at least I figured out the workaround, and I am now able to send registration links to people, so I am grateful for that.

I hope to get at least some of these issues resolved, if not tomorrow, then by the end of the week.

Prioritization

If someone thinks I was relatively quiet in the past couple of days, that was true. The work was fine, but I had a sort of writer’s block with my tutorial, and I started to worry whether I would be able to finish it on time, with all my other responsibilities. One of the things that really bothered me was that I knew that for a workshop of that duration, I needed 100 slides. Also, I knew that even though some of the slides in my presentation were still placeholders, I had already put out there everything I wanted to cover. And when I mentally reviewed my tutorial, I felt strongly that I already had enough material.

I had several industrial slides that required a lot of time for research, but still, there was not enough, and I knew that I shouldn’t expand this part of my tutorial.

Tonight, I was finally able to overcome my writer’s block. I finished all the industrial slides, and when I moved to the next section of my presentation, I realized that there were several placeholders that should have been replaced with three slides each, not one! Finally, I had 94 slides, and I am sure that the remaining ones are somewhere there:).

Finally, I am producing the slides at a normal speed, and I should be able to (mostly) finish everything over the weekend.

And yes, about prioritization! With all being said

  • I covered an early morning escorting shift before work
  • I didn’t go to the Art Institute after work
  • I stopped at Osco for a couple of on-sale items
  • And I went to the beach at seven. The lifeguards were out, the air was cool, and the water was warmer than the air, and I knew that the swimming season was about to end!

And also, our conference website is live! But I will showcase it tomorrow 🙂

Conferences Prep

Lots of people are helping me both for PG DATA and for Prairie Postgres, but I still feel like I am doing “something” related to both non-stop.

We are waiting for our official website to be completed and released to us.

I am building our event in the EventZilla.

I am building the call for papers in Sessionize.

Communicating with the caterer, although another team member did most of the talks.

Approving social media posts and newsletters.

Our regular September meetup is coming.

My talk at Django US.

Recording of my P99 talk.

My September tutorial is still only half-done.

I have houseguests, and I feel like I do not have enough timewith them.

I can keep this list going on forever.

And summer is almost over!

Portland, Oregon

I am about to leave Portland without having seen much, but I’ve had an exceptionally productive workday. Several months ago, J (my peer from Scotland) and I submitted a talk proposal to the FOSSY conference in Portland. The proposal was not accepted, and I moved on with my life.

Then, about three weeks ago, I received a message from J: Could you come to Portland so that we could work on our project? The project meant our talk on the same topic, which was accepted to another conference, which I will be unable to attend. J will be presenting for both of us, but I wanted to participate in the PowerPoint preparation. In addition, our proposal for a community event at PG Conf EU was accepted, and we needed to create an event plan. I didn’t know he was coming, because I knew our talk had not been accepted. He told me that his other talk was, so he was coming. I regret not knowing about it earlier, as I had just recently made plans to visit my friend Lena in Ann Arbor, so I said “no.” But two weeks ago, Lena informed me about her home situation, and we agreed that it would be better for me not to visit now. I immediately thought that in that case, I could go to Portland. I made this trip very minimalistic because I couldn’t waste workdays, and I had things to do at home (and I wouldn’t have any free weekends until October).

If you want to see a crazy person who spends their own time and money to fly for one day to the other side of the country just to work with somebody on a project – that’s me! Fortunately, the conference hotel was very reasonably priced, and I also found that I had $300 credit with American Airlines from last summer when we had to cancel our flight to DC, which was more than half the price of that ticket.

On Friday, I departed from ORD at noon, arrived in Portland at 2:30 PM local time, and still had time to attend the last two sessions at the conference and listen to J’s talk. We agreed on our working sessions’ schedule, and spent most of Saturday working, with interruptions for meals and coffee, and then I left for the airport, where I am now sitting, waiting for my red-eye flight.

Time and money well spent!


This Week Was About Missing Out

This week, instead of saying “Yes” to a million things you can do in Chicago in summer, especially if “you” are “me”, I did the opposite. I was saying “no” to many activities, because I needed to catch up with my professional responsibilities.

My talk at PG Conf EU in Riga was accepted, which means I need to prepare it, because it’s a new talk. That’ in addition to the community event I am hosting there. I have things I promised to do for the ACM Chicago Chapter, and couldn’t find time for weeks, but most importantly, my big tutorial is only half-done.

And I have no more free weekends until that conference! My only “free” day will be upcoming Sunday, and it will be a day after the red eye flight back from Portland.

Do not take me wrong – I love all these activities, and I am taking this all completely voluntarely, but still 🙂

At Work And Outside Work

My biggest disappointment of the last weekend was that I didn’t even start multiple projects, which I had planned to both start and finish over the weekend. I believe that my bad planning was the root cause of the problem, as the said plan was completely unrealistic. I was planning how “time-sensitive” events would fit into the schedule without giving a thought to all other activities that had to happen at some point, even if they didn’t have a pre-defined start and end time.

Not only did I leave a lot of conference-related action items incomplete, but I didn’t even start anything related to my conference talks prep, and I have four different talks to prepare, including my huge tutorial, which I barely started. I spent a significant portion of my time panicking about all of the above, along with a clear understanding that summer is short and I have only that many beach days left.

My worktime is extremely intense, and if I manage to carve some time to do something not-work-related, I have to do some work after work. The not-work-related include answering web designers questions two or three times per day, including providing new content, meeting with the whole org committee and individual members about their specific tasks.

I know that in a long run, this will save me time. For example, I talked to a person who volunteered to do our newsletter. I sent her a sample, sent a draft of the next newsletter, asked her to complete, reviewed her work, and met with her on zoom twice. She will be a huge help, but this week, it took over two hours of my time. Same goes to our social media accounts, people who will be handling catering, conference lodging, etc. Their help will be essential, but this week I am panicking because I am late with everything!

On top of that, during the first two days of this week I was asked 1) to vote up one Postgres patch (why me???) 2) to review a book proposal (I refused) 3) to write a new book (“because people like my writing”) – I said to reach out in six months 4) to give my opinion on the work of one of the Postgres “rising stars” company (I agreed and accepted a meeting invite).

… and I worked on my presentations for forty minutes only, when I need many hours!

The Morning Lake

Last summer, I discovered the pleasure of going to the beach early in the morning, before going to work, and this summer, I was not going to wait till the end of August.

Today was the first day I did it this season. I was unsure whether the lake is warm enough so that the water in the morning will be warm, and it was!

No picture can express the joy of immersing yourself into the lake facing the rising sun! All my tiredness of the past two weeks was washed away. You can tell that I was not the first person on the beach this morning, but pretty close to the first 🙂

It’s interesting that, apparently, the upcoming Thursday is International Self-Care Day. 🤷🏻‍♀️ My firm hosts multiple related events, but my best possible self-care was this morning! The only thing I need to figure out is how I can get this constantly missing extra half-hour of sleep.

Friday

It’s not a mistake – I know that today is Sunday, and pretty late on Sunday! It’s just that looking back to Friday, I am wondering yet again why I think that weekends are inflatable!

Friday was great in some sense, because I had zero meetings at work, and nobody distracted me with anything “urgent,” so I was able to make progress on several tasks that required concentration, and close a whole bunch of tickets! I left work in a rearest state of “I’ve done everything!” Also, a friend who invited me on an art tour canceled, and I decided not to go on my own. I was hoping that this would give me extra time to focus on my conference presentations, which are many, and some are due soon!

However, there were so many other urgent things that had to be completed/resolved/started before Monday, that I did exactly zero for my presentations. Looking back at the weekend, I see that everything I’ve done was necessary and overdue, and I am happy I was able to address some of these, but once again – I need more time!

Body And Mind In Balance

Even when the work is insane, there are two things that bring me joy every summer day; two things that make Chicago the best place to be in the summer: biking early in the morning and going to the beach in the evening. Even half an hour by the lake helps me to recharge and gives me peace of mind like nothing else. Each time I walk into the water, I say: Thank you, Lake!

Job Ads Minimize Work-Life Balance

Trending yesterday on LinkedIn. I would agree with the commentators who said that at least these companies are honest; the necessity to work insane hours was always there.

After years of luring talent with promises of flexible schedules and a healthy work-life balance, more employers are now opting for a tough-love approach, The Wall Street Journal notes. Companies like Shopify, McKinsey, and healthcare startup Solace now often go out of their way to stress their long hours and rough pace in job listings. While some applicants appreciate the transparency, one recruiting expert notes that companies are “testing the limits of what they can ask of their employees” in a competitive job market.

Follow the link above to see the discussion.