Finally, I could bike without the warm gloves!
And I bought more flowers, and found my dream hanging basket.
And I went to the beach! For real!
A Warm Day! Finally!
Author: Hettie D.
My name is Henrietta (Hettie) Dombrovskaya. I was born in Saint-Petersburg, Russian (actually, back then – Leningrad, USSR) in 1963, and immigrated to the United States in 1996.
I love Saint Petersburg, the city I was born and raised in, and I think it’s one of the most beautiful places in the world. Similarly (but differently) I love Chicago, and can’t imagine myself moving somewhere else in the observable future.
I have three children, Igor, Vlad and Anna, all adults living on their own, and one (so far) granddaughter Nadia. I also believe that my children are the best thing that happened in my life.
As for my professional life, I am working in the field of Information Technologies. When I was twenty, I’ve declared that the databases are the coolest thing invented and that I want to do them for the rest of my life. Thirty plus years later, I still believe it’s true, and still, believe that the databases are the best. These two statements together imply that I think a person can have it all, and indeed, I think so! Keep reading my journals to find out how I did it.
Things I am Losing And Forgetting
I know that I am balancing on the edge when I start forgetting important things or losing object which are in plain sight. Just two minutes ago, I realized that I didn’t hit “post” on my repost, and didn’t repost here about yesterday’s meetup. And you what – yesterday was amazing! I felt good, like I hadn’t for a very long time! Moving to a new location was all I wanted, plus more!
However, the past week was marked by multiple micro-tragedies. On Saturday, Anna, Kira, and I stopped at the Art Institute before going to the concert, with the background idea of leaving their backpacks at the coat check for the duration of the concert. The idea was great, but closer to the end of the concert, I realized that I couldn’t find the tag, although I was sure I had put it into my backpack pocket. I ended up asking Anna to go to retrieve her luggage, and I found the tag in that very pocket on Sunday evening!
Second. I was cleaning the milk wand on my cappuccino maker, and then… I could tell where I put it! I am absolutely sure I accidentally threw it into the garbage, but I know how small, relatively heavy objects slide to the bottom of the bag almost instantaneously, so I didn’t have high expectations! Since I already had a thought about replacing this machine (I bought it because it cost $35, and I decided I could throw away that much for experimenting). The machine was not perfect, and I was leisurely thinking about the alternatives.
I checked on the manufacturer’s website and found that they do not have spare parts and that they are about to discontinue this particular model. Then, I went to check what’s on sale on Amazon, selected the device I liked, and it was shipped to me the day after. However, I was unable to make it work, and trust me, I am not a complete idiot. Something was definitely broken. I spent 30 min on AWS tech support, and they agreed to send me a replacement (I still had to sign up on the manufacturer’s website to initiate a replacement, but still!). Waiting for it to be over!
And finally, today, when I was at the ODS making Chicken Alfredo, I heated the pan too much before putting the chicken breasts on it, and hot olive oil made a little explosion straight into my right palm! I am still in pain, but not super severe.
What’s wrong with me?!
First Meetup At Chicago Innovations: I Loved It!!!
Mother’s Day Weekend
When I stopped at my mom’s place on Monday, I knew she was going to tell me everything that was wrong the day before, and I braced myself for a half-hour torture. Fortunately, it turned out not to be “everything bad,” but just the resentment that we didn’t talk solemnly about both Anna and me (and I’d say, she is probably the major reason why we didn’t talk about us :)). Nothing is new; unfortunately, the (formal) words mean to her more than anything else, so I expected that reaction.
As for me, it was probably the best Mother’s Day I’ve had! We started Saturday with the CSO Family matinee,
Then we went to the Buckingham fountain to “Switch on Summer.” For several years, I wanted the girls to have this experience, and finally, Kira had a chance to be there (Nadia was busy with her extracurriculars, and she and John arrived later on Saturday).
Kira was really helpful all the time, not just “I want to help!” but actually helping to set up the table, clean up, and just “keeping me company” when I was doing things in the kitchen. The latter one seriously felt great. I always lament that this apartment isn’t designed for cooking as a family activity: the kitchen is separated from the rest of the apartment, and when I am cooking, I am cutting off all personal interactions. It’s nice when someone keeps you company!
Later, Anna helped me to fasten all loose screws in my flower baskets, and we installed them on the balcony railing, and then she went to visit my mom, for which I can’t thank her enough.
I was hoping that we would be able to squeeze in some biking, and it turned out that Anna had similar ideas, and even more, she was ready to go early in the morning, so that we could see sunrise over the lake. And she actually woke up at five, and we went together and had an amazing time. We went further away than we originally planned, and I started to worry that the girls would resume their previous day’s fighting while we were away, but fortunately, only Kira was up, so she didn’t have anybody to fight with 🙂
Anna ordered food from the Honeybear Cafe, picked it up, then picked up my mom, and we all sat for our late breakfast/brunch; Igor joined us a little bit later.
I also put out the Mother’s Day pastry boxes from Vanille.
I was glad that Igor, Anna, and I had a rare opportunity to sit together and talk about things we were all interested in without major interruptions :).
And finally, we all went to the Windy City Garden Center to pick up flowers for my balcony. That’s one of the few things I can’t manage with Uber, so picking up flowers was a great Mother’s Day present. I thought that after they leave, I would start planting, and I was wondering how long it would take, but the girls offered to help, and they were seriously helpful; to my surprise, we were done in less than an hour!
I will definitely need to buy some extra plants, because it’s difficult to estimate precisely how many will be needed, but the bulk of the work is done!
CSO Concerts
Last week, I attended two CSO concerts again:). On Thursday, I went with my neighbor to the concert featuring mezzo-soprano Joyce DiDonato, who is currently the CSO artist-in -residence. I like mezzo-sopranos more than I like sopranos, and I really enjoyed her voice!
After her performance of Neruda songs, the orchestra played Walton’s 1st symphony. My neighbor, who watched a thousand times more movies than I and is very well versed in the history of American filmmaking, had heard many of his works before, and I didn’t even know his name! I think I will be forever discovering authors, artists and musician that “everyone knows,” but I am totally fine with it :).
I am a little bit embarrased to say that I paid attention to Joyce DiDonato’s appearance, especially because I was just ranting about my mom’s obsession of how the performers look, but I am still going to mention it. I figured she should be about my age, and I later checked that she was 57. She does not make attempts to hide her age, and she puts on the reading glasses when she performs, but she also wore an absolutely stanning black dress with giant golden leaves on the front, with opened back and closed neck. I do not know why I find it important to share my feelings; it was somehow empowering and reassureing: yes, wareing extravagant dresses at this age is OK; and not going for a plastic surgery or botox is OK as well.
Saturday was the day of a Family matinee at the CSO. Both Nadia and Kira were spposed to go, but Nadia had a soccer practice and a swimming lesson, so it was Anna, Kira and I. It was Mother Goose and a Cabinet of Wonders show starring Natalie Merchant. She was dancing in the asles, and the kids were taking off their seats and following her along:). It was almost a mess, but a very exciting one! Probably the best family matinee so far!
Little Soldiers: A Book Review
I picked up this book on a friend’s recommendation. If I were to come across this book just browsing titles, I would most likely think that I have an opinion about the Chinese educational system, and nothing could possibly change it. Based on my friend’s review, the situation seemed more complex, so I decided to give this book a try.
Many aspects of the Chinese educational system remind me of the Soviet schools, and some scenes from the book sounded painfully familiar. Still, there are many differences, stemming from cultural differences and the role of education and formal exams in society, dating back hundreds of years.
To be completely honest, I think that, at least at the time of writing this book, Leonora Chu could not fully foresee the long-term effects of the Chinese educational system on a person’s development, even though she spoke in depth with high schoolers from different backgrounds, with different life goals and aptitudes.
For me, there is no question that fostering the desire to learn, encouraging curiosity, and independent thinking are the most important educational goals, and I feel like the Chinese educational system does the opposite. I do not think that the quality of education is defined by the complexity of math classes (I held this belief for the first couple of years of my children being in American schools, but fortunately realized my mistake early enough).
A side note: I do not understand why, in the twenty-first century, people still consider a “well-behaved child” to be the most desired educational outcome. And by “well-behaved,” I mean a three-year-old who can sit still for the whole duration of the class. Why it is so admirable, is beyond me 🙂
Five Years Later!
Five years ago, on May 9, 2021, I moved to my new home in Rogers Park, and lived happily ever after! I am not saying my life was infinitely happy since them but my home continues to be my source of happiness 🙂
A Visit To The Adler Planetarium
The Adler Planetarium is one of the two big museums in Chicago that I am not a member of (the other is the Museum of Science and Industry). Both museums are farther away, but that’s only part of the reason I am not a member. For the latter, the distance is a problem, although I really love it and am considering joining for the sake of my granddaughters. But for Planetarium, it’s not the distance; I am just not into it that much, so the distance wouldn’t be a problem.
Recently, I found out that the Planetarium has free public days (or rather, free nights), which they announce on their website, and any Chicago resident can get a ticket. It took me a while to find a free day to attend (these days are always Wednesdays), but I finally got a free ticket for May 6. In addition, you can buy tickets for different shows, and I bought a ticket for the Skywatch Live.
Below is a visual report of my visit.
One thing I really enjoyed, and there is no way to reproduce it here: the footage of the Control Center when the astronauts are landing on the surface of the Moon. This footage presents America at its greatness, the feeling we are now missing!
From the”Vintage Tribune”
I am subscribed to the Chicago Tribune’s newsletter “Vintage Tribune.” Each day, it reproduces several old issues of “that day in Chicago,” and I wanted to share some of them.
April 13, 1992 Great Chicago Flood.
May 1. The actual May Day affair happened on May 4, 1886, but the Federation of Organized Trades and Labor Unions, the predecessor of the American Federation of Labor, called for May 1, 1886 to be the beginning of a nationwide movement for the eight-hour day. What I didn’t know and just found recently was that the eigh-hour day law was introduced in 1867, but never reinforced.
May 2. 8000 people attended the opening of the Field Museum.
“Unavoidable Like Taxes”
My two previous tax seasons were very eventful, to put it mildly, and not because of me, but mostly because of the organizational changes happening at my tax preparation company, plus me being in the middle of two tax brackets. Details do not matter; what matters is that my tax returns were late twice, the prep firm was filing extensions, and I also owed a lot.
This year, it was a nice change: there were no issues, they filed everything in time, and I ended up with a substantial refund. Only it was two weeks past the tax return was sent and presumably accepted, but I didn’t receive either a refund or approval. I started to worry, especially because the IRS website showed my taxes were not filed, but the prep firm assured me that everything was filed, and most likely, the IRS needs additional verification, and I should expect the letter. They also suggested me to create an online account with the IRS.
Still, nothing was happening. I called the IRS on April 15 and was able to reach a human, and they said that they didn’t have my tax returns, and I went over the full circle again.
About two weeks ago, I finally saw a notice on my online IRS account saying that they sent me a letter to which I need to respond ASAP. But nothing about what this letter is about. I kept waiting. Finally, last Monday, I saw the IRS letter in my Informed Delivery Digest. However, it turned out I spoke too soon: the letter didn’t materialize in my mailbox, and I was worried sick about what was going to happen now. At this time of year, there was no way to reach a human by phone; they kept routing me to the automated system.
Finally, when I was ready to write to our Congresswoman’s office, specifically, last night, when I opened the door to accept a grocery delivery, I noticed an envelope on the floor – it was my IRS letter! I am super thankful for someone who received it, realized that it was dropped into the wrong mailbox, and dropped it at my door!
At that moment, I submitted all additional documentation, and I hope that the issue will be resolved, as they say, within the next 6-8 weeks. When this is over, I will be sure to report details, but now, I am just happy to be out of uncertainty!
Hettie's Reflections 