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Welcome to Hettie’s Reflections!

Hello! My name is Hettie, I was born and raised in Saint Petersburg, Russia, and I emigrated to the United States in October 1996. I live in Palatine, IL and work in Chicago.

I’ve been very active in the Russian blogosphere, and my American friends keep asking me when I am going to tell my story in English. Well, the time has come.

I am going to write my story for my granddaughter Nadia, and for all my American friends, who has been so supportive through all these years, and hope that my children, Igor, Vlad and Anna will help me through this journey.

My Russian blog used to have “a lot of everything”, because first, I just like to write a little something every day, reflecting on everything happening in the world around me, and second – because I believe that people trust me more knowing me as a person. Everything I’ve done in my life so far, and everything I am doing every day, made me – and still making me the person I am.

This being said, although this blog is intended mostly to record our family history, there will be still “a lot of everything” here. However, for those who is interested in the history solely, I will paste all the links to the Hettie’s Timeline page, which will hopefully allow to read all these entries in a chronological order.

The links to my interviews and videos (mostly professional) will be pasted on this page, and also for those who is interested what I am doing in my professional life, feel free to check out my blog The World of Data.

My blog Hettie’s Cooking is hardly a cooking blog, at least I do not update it often. However, some of my legendary recipes, like “Mom’s soup”, can be found there.

Enjoy 🙂

Travels

My flight to Vancouver was departing at 6 AM, and usually I leave the house 3 hours before departure. At that time of the day, I could not rely on public transport, so I planned to Uber-ing there. However, I decided against leaving the house at 3 AM: I was moving West, so I would have a long day anyway, and also, the AA lounge opens at 5 AM. With all of that, and with hopes that the early morning ride would be faster than the average one hour, I set my alarm clock for 3:20 AM. I took a shower the night before, and my bags were packed, so it shouldn’t have been more than 20 min, and I don’t understand why it took me more than 40. And when I placed a request for Uber, it took them more than 15 minutes to locate the driver. I started to panic, but the driver told me we had plenty of time, and he was right – we arrived at Terminal 3 at 4:40 AM. However, there was another unexpected problem: there was a construction going on in Terminal 3, and the Priority entrance was closed! They only left TSA pre-checks, and there were plenty open, but I never got it, because Priority was always faster :).

Even though they do not ask you to take the liquids and electronics out of your bag anymore, the line was so long that it took the same time as the Uber ride! (Plus the time I was running around to figure out where to go without the priority entrance). I ran into the Lounge five minutes prior to boarding, but still had time to have breakfast:

I knew that was my only chance to eat until I landed in Vancouver, because they do not serve any food (even for purchase), even on the long flights, and I had two long flights with a very short connection in LA. So I did what I almost never do: I put an apple and an English muffin into my backpack. Well, at least they served coffee on both flights! (Some flights don’t do even that!)

I landed at Vancouver on time. I heard a lot of praise for Vancouver, but I was a little bit cautious about having high expectations. After all, people are going insane about San Francisco, and I like it “objectively,” as a tourist, but I do not love it.

I loved it. It clearly reminds me of Seattle: I know they are geographically close, but I was not even thinking about it st first. I can’t tell what I liked, it was just in the air.

On the train from the airport to the city center – it takes a little bit over 20 min

I was thinking, as I often do, why things are so normal everywhere else? Why can you just step out of the airport terminal, get on a high-speed train, and get to the city center in so many cities in the world, but not in Chicago? Or when will our Blue Line start to resemble these high-speed trains? Yes, I know that in many US cities, we do not have even that!

Youth Math School: The 8th Grade

Here is my last post about the Youth Math School. The other day, I thought I should blog about being a teacher at the Youth Math School, but then I realized I hadn’t finished the story of my own studies. Here it is.

I do not remember how I signed up for these classes in school #30. I believe I just walked into the old Math Department building, which was still open for the evening classes, found the ad board, and looked up the classes for the 8th graders. I noted the day and time, and just showed up.

I know it seems wild to students nowadays that you could just walk into a school building during the evening hours, find the room, and nobody would ask you anything. I believe that University students who taught these classes still had to find a janitor to take the key and open the classroom, since I remember us sitting in the hallway and waiting for our teachers. And I also remember looking for someone to open a classroom for me when three years later, I was a teacher myself.

My current self is just wondering why it was assumed that the school should allow these evening classes, why they trusted us, why parents didn’t care where their teenage kids were (most likely, they were happy that their teenage kids were doing math rather than drinking cheap wine on the streets), but my past self didn’t give it a second thought.

Anyway, I was in a math class again. Once again, I was the only girl in the class. Our teachers were Misha Chepovetsky and Borya Goldberg. Since they were teachers, we addressed them with their patronymics (and later, when I was a teacher myself, I learned that it was very important to address other teachers in the same school using their full names with patronymics). We practice addressing each other that way even during our university classes, with surprised looks from our classmates. Misha was Michail Anatolievish, a second-year student in the Department of Mathematics and Mechanics at Leningrad State University, and he taught at the Youth Math School for the second year. Boris Michailovich was a first-year student of the same department.

Since the classes were very interactive, and everyone could see who was the first person to raise their hand so that the teacher could stop by and check their problem solution, it was immediately obvious “who is the smartest,” and as I mentioned earlier, the idea that each individual student’s achievements and what is not, should be private, didn’t exist.

Vadim was definitely “the smartest one,” and Tolya Korobkin was “the second smartest.” Surprisingly, I was not trailing and sometimes would come in third, so the teachers started to pay attention to me. It was somehow assumed that all of us wanted (or should I say “should have wanted?”) to be admitted to the 9th grade of school #30. Also, all of us participated in the Math competitions in our respective school districts, and a lot of us made it to the city competition.

The City Math Olympiad had taken place in the old Math Department building (they were still reluctant to send the kids to compete at the out-of-town campus), and to my (and everyone’s else) surprise, not only did I receive a third degree diploma (remember, I never had any before that), but also, I was the only person of our Youth Math School class who got it :). During the awards ceremony, my whole class was cheering for me, and once again, I was the only girl who received any diploma… until we saw one more girl who was called out to receive the award. All of us watched closely a miniature figure of a pretty, subtle brunette walking to the podium. That was Elena K., my future classmate and my best friend for many years to come.

To be continued.

My historical posts are being published in random order. Please refer to the page Hettie’s timeline to find where exactly each post belongs and what was before and after.

Another Long Morning Bike Ride

And first balcony breakfast 🙂

Not An Unnamed Company

While explaining my choice of vendor for our conference merch, I was telling everyone that I would rather order from a local vendor than from “an unnamed Chinese company.” Alas, when it came to ordering lanyards, I gave up because I could not find a local company that would be open to the design I had in mind, and even non-local, but at least US-based companies I came across didn’t allow me to build the design I wanted. On top of that, we had a lanyard sponsor, so I was under pressure to make it perfect without overspending :).

That’s how I ended up with a Chinese company on Amazon, and I instantly liked the way they allowed me to change each part of the design to adjust the color, fonts, and all other pieces. They even sent me the proof. Since I still wanted to see the real product before ordering 200+, I started by ordering 50 lanyards and paid for expedited delivery (it was still within the budget). When the package arrived, I realized that the sponsor’s logo was not as visible as I thought it would be (it was a difficult choice of the lanyard color, and actually, the sponsor themselves approved). I know that blue is a difficult color, and it often doesn’t look the same in reality as it does on the screen. However, this time I couldn’t even say it looked different: it was just a subtle difference in shade that made the logo less visible than I would have liked. I reached out to the sponsor, and they came up with a white logo that would work.

I quickly put together a new order, but when I was ready to submit, I saw that it didn’t offer express delivery, and a regular delivery could be late. I became a little bit desperate because I didn’t have time for one more experiment with another company. Then I realized I had a human email address because a real person had sent me the first design proof, and I emailed him. The next morning, he replied: apologies, the person who is in charge of express shipping was on vacation, but now he is back, and you should be able to choose it when placing the order.

I thanked him and placed the order, and noted that I needed a design proof. When the proof arrived the next day, I saw that it was using the previous design, which I already knew would not work. Since I already received a shipping label notification, I immediately replied: “That’s a wrong design! The logo should be all white! Please make sure this big order has the correct design!” They replied: so sorry, my mistake! I will start working on the new design immediately!

The next morning, I received the correct design and approved it, and a week later, the package arrived. I didn’t have to acknowledge its arrival. After all, the sale was conducted through Amazon, but I felt we had already built some connection, so I emailed them back: “The lanyards arrived, and they look great!” They replied:

That’s really great. Thank you for your sincere feedback. Wish your event all the best.❤️

At that moment, I realized that’s not an abstract Chinese company anymore 🙂

A Warm Day! Finally!

Finally, I could bike without the warm gloves!

And I bought more flowers, and found my dream hanging basket.

And I went to the beach! For real!

Things I am Losing And Forgetting

I know that I am balancing on the edge when I start forgetting important things or losing object which are in plain sight. Just two minutes ago, I realized that I didn’t hit “post” on my repost, and didn’t repost here about yesterday’s meetup. And you what – yesterday was amazing! I felt good, like I hadn’t for a very long time! Moving to a new location was all I wanted, plus more!

However, the past week was marked by multiple micro-tragedies. On Saturday, Anna, Kira, and I stopped at the Art Institute before going to the concert, with the background idea of leaving their backpacks at the coat check for the duration of the concert. The idea was great, but closer to the end of the concert, I realized that I couldn’t find the tag, although I was sure I had put it into my backpack pocket. I ended up asking Anna to go to retrieve her luggage, and I found the tag in that very pocket on Sunday evening!

Second. I was cleaning the milk wand on my cappuccino maker, and then… I could tell where I put it! I am absolutely sure I accidentally threw it into the garbage, but I know how small, relatively heavy objects slide to the bottom of the bag almost instantaneously, so I didn’t have high expectations! Since I already had a thought about replacing this machine (I bought it because it cost $35, and I decided I could throw away that much for experimenting). The machine was not perfect, and I was leisurely thinking about the alternatives.

I checked on the manufacturer’s website and found that they do not have spare parts and that they are about to discontinue this particular model. Then, I went to check what’s on sale on Amazon, selected the device I liked, and it was shipped to me the day after. However, I was unable to make it work, and trust me, I am not a complete idiot. Something was definitely broken. I spent 30 min on AWS tech support, and they agreed to send me a replacement (I still had to sign up on the manufacturer’s website to initiate a replacement, but still!). Waiting for it to be over!

And finally, today, when I was at the ODS making Chicken Alfredo, I heated the pan too much before putting the chicken breasts on it, and hot olive oil made a little explosion straight into my right palm! I am still in pain, but not super severe.

What’s wrong with me?!

First Meetup At Chicago Innovations: I Loved It!!!

Mother’s Day Weekend

When I stopped at my mom’s place on Monday, I knew she was going to tell me everything that was wrong the day before, and I braced myself for a half-hour torture. Fortunately, it turned out not to be “everything bad,” but just the resentment that we didn’t talk solemnly about both Anna and me (and I’d say, she is probably the major reason why we didn’t talk about us :)). Nothing is new; unfortunately, the (formal) words mean to her more than anything else, so I expected that reaction.

As for me, it was probably the best Mother’s Day I’ve had! We started Saturday with the CSO Family matinee,

Then we went to the Buckingham fountain to “Switch on Summer.” For several years, I wanted the girls to have this experience, and finally, Kira had a chance to be there (Nadia was busy with her extracurriculars, and she and John arrived later on Saturday).

Kira was really helpful all the time, not just “I want to help!” but actually helping to set up the table, clean up, and just “keeping me company” when I was doing things in the kitchen. The latter one seriously felt great. I always lament that this apartment isn’t designed for cooking as a family activity: the kitchen is separated from the rest of the apartment, and when I am cooking, I am cutting off all personal interactions. It’s nice when someone keeps you company!

Later, Anna helped me to fasten all loose screws in my flower baskets, and we installed them on the balcony railing, and then she went to visit my mom, for which I can’t thank her enough.

I was hoping that we would be able to squeeze in some biking, and it turned out that Anna had similar ideas, and even more, she was ready to go early in the morning, so that we could see sunrise over the lake. And she actually woke up at five, and we went together and had an amazing time. We went further away than we originally planned, and I started to worry that the girls would resume their previous day’s fighting while we were away, but fortunately, only Kira was up, so she didn’t have anybody to fight with 🙂

Anna ordered food from the Honeybear Cafe, picked it up, then picked up my mom, and we all sat for our late breakfast/brunch; Igor joined us a little bit later.

I also put out the Mother’s Day pastry boxes from Vanille.

I was glad that Igor, Anna, and I had a rare opportunity to sit together and talk about things we were all interested in without major interruptions :).

And finally, we all went to the Windy City Garden Center to pick up flowers for my balcony. That’s one of the few things I can’t manage with Uber, so picking up flowers was a great Mother’s Day present. I thought that after they leave, I would start planting, and I was wondering how long it would take, but the girls offered to help, and they were seriously helpful; to my surprise, we were done in less than an hour!

I will definitely need to buy some extra plants, because it’s difficult to estimate precisely how many will be needed, but the bulk of the work is done!

A final Mother’s Day touch at the courtyard!
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CSO Concerts

Last week, I attended two CSO concerts again:). On Thursday, I went with my neighbor to the concert featuring mezzo-soprano Joyce DiDonato, who is currently the CSO artist-in -residence. I like mezzo-sopranos more than I like sopranos, and I really enjoyed her voice!

After her performance of Neruda songs, the orchestra played Walton’s 1st symphony. My neighbor, who watched a thousand times more movies than I and is very well versed in the history of American filmmaking, had heard many of his works before, and I didn’t even know his name! I think I will be forever discovering authors, artists and musician that “everyone knows,” but I am totally fine with it :).

I am a little bit embarrased to say that I paid attention to Joyce DiDonato’s appearance, especially because I was just ranting about my mom’s obsession of how the performers look, but I am still going to mention it. I figured she should be about my age, and I later checked that she was 57. She does not make attempts to hide her age, and she puts on the reading glasses when she performs, but she also wore an absolutely stanning black dress with giant golden leaves on the front, with opened back and closed neck. I do not know why I find it important to share my feelings; it was somehow empowering and reassureing: yes, wareing extravagant dresses at this age is OK; and not going for a plastic surgery or botox is OK as well.

Saturday was the day of a Family matinee at the CSO. Both Nadia and Kira were spposed to go, but Nadia had a soccer practice and a swimming lesson, so it was Anna, Kira and I. It was Mother Goose and a Cabinet of Wonders show starring Natalie Merchant. She was dancing in the asles, and the kids were taking off their seats and following her along:). It was almost a mess, but a very exciting one! Probably the best family matinee so far!

Little Soldiers: A Book Review

I picked up this book on a friend’s recommendation. If I were to come across this book just browsing titles, I would most likely think that I have an opinion about the Chinese educational system, and nothing could possibly change it. Based on my friend’s review, the situation seemed more complex, so I decided to give this book a try.

Many aspects of the Chinese educational system remind me of the Soviet schools, and some scenes from the book sounded painfully familiar. Still, there are many differences, stemming from cultural differences and the role of education and formal exams in society, dating back hundreds of years.

To be completely honest, I think that, at least at the time of writing this book, Leonora Chu could not fully foresee the long-term effects of the Chinese educational system on a person’s development, even though she spoke in depth with high schoolers from different backgrounds, with different life goals and aptitudes.

For me, there is no question that fostering the desire to learn, encouraging curiosity, and independent thinking are the most important educational goals, and I feel like the Chinese educational system does the opposite. I do not think that the quality of education is defined by the complexity of math classes (I held this belief for the first couple of years of my children being in American schools, but fortunately realized my mistake early enough).

A side note: I do not understand why, in the twenty-first century, people still consider a “well-behaved child” to be the most desired educational outcome. And by “well-behaved,” I mean a three-year-old who can sit still for the whole duration of the class. Why it is so admirable, is beyond me 🙂