I know that I am at least two weeks late with this post, but it’s only in the past two days that I found some time to write it all, although it was in my head for quite a while. Here it goes.
As I’ve said multiple times, what a year!!! Although all changes were for good at the end of the year, and I am ending on the positive side of things, it was too much! Because of so many things happening, I inevitably “lost” some things; that is, I had no time to do everything I wanted.
The most important thing in 2021 was my move. I could not imagine the extent to which it would change my life before it happened, neither could I foresee many of the individual changes. It’s too early to be sure – I have lived in Rogers Park for less than a year – but I think that the impact of this event on my life may be the closest to my move to the US; so many things have changed!
Besides the move, it was:
- our book was published
- I sold my car, and after 24 years of driving, became a non-driver
- I changed job
- Sold my old house
- Refinanced my new house, which dramatically improved my financial situation
- changed job one more time, and became a part of the EDB family
Both job changes were accompanied by a lot of rethinking what I want from a job, what is important to me, what I think about myself, and my impact on the Universe.
I want to be very clear – I do not regret making the first career move this year. I learned a lot during this shortest tenure I ever had, and I will never look the same way at many aspects of database development. I have a different level of expectations: for myself and the Postgres community. On the other hand, I’ve experienced the biggest personal and professional disappointment in my life. Chad was such an important figure for me for over twenty years that I still feel the void. The irony of the situation is that many years ago, his influence helped me to become this very person who can’t tolerate the behavior he demonstrated. He is definitely my “person of the year” – in the Times magazine meaning.
As for my second career move, the impact was also unexpected. I didn’t expect it to be such a big deal as it turned to be. I didn’t know how different that consulting was going to be. And in any case, I am just starting!
And one more big change of the year. I think that has been going on for a couple of years now, but I heard it in these terms only this summer. My then-new coworker exclaimed during our group lunch: oh, you are famous! How does it feel to be famous? I replied that I felt it was an extra responsibility, it’s that I needed to think twice before saying or typing something. That I know what I say makes an impact. I know that people listen and judge.
And here are my hopes and my resolutions for 2022.
- I want 2022 to be less eventful than 2021! It was too much!
- I do not want to change jobs in 2022. I want to stay where I am now, at least for 1.5 years.
- I want to use my position as an EDB employee to make many things, and especially NORM, happen in Postgres.
- I want to resume my activities on building and maintaining Chicago PUG. I didn’t do it well in the past 3 or 4 months, and I need to change it.
- I need to learn to work from home. I remember that there were times when I liked it. I do not like it anymore, and there are too many things which fit nicely in my life when I work in the office. I need to learn to organize my life working from home, not just a couple of times a week but all the time.
- On that subject, I need to re-evaluate what I spend time on. Now that I am more financially stable than ever, I should learn to spend money rather than time in many situations, from taking Uber more often to purchasing more food online.
- I want to finally get on a more normal sleep schedule and not try to sleep less than I need.
- I want to continue saving more than I did in previous years to invest more in my retirement and rainy day fund.
- I need to stick to the schedule I developed to pay off my mortgage ahead of time; by the time I retire.
- I need to look at how much and which causes I donate and restructure my donations. Overall, to give more.
People and relationships
- I want to make more time to people in my life, both “live” and virtually, not to abandon relationships because of “lack of time.”
- I need to learn to be more patient with mom because my time with her does not benefit me if I am impatient. If I want to do something good for her, I need to be patient and supportive.
- Allocate time for social media, both Russian and English; different media for different reasons, but if I keep certain social media accounts, there is a reason for each of them.
- And I need to use this time more productively.
I guess, to summarize, I need to rethink what I spend my time on.
I am not writing anything about my personal life here. Not because there are no goals, but because we have goals regardless of the beginning of the year, and I hope that we will continue to work on our relationships the same way as we did in the second half of 2021.
That being said, hello 2022!