Morning Biking

The days are becoming shorter, and I see the sunrise only by the time I reach Montrose Harbor.

Before Sunrise

Tandem Disaster

We (Boris, Anna, and I) have been talking about getting a tandem bike for Boris and I for a while. According to Anna, the major challenge with all regular tandems would be that they all are built with the presumption that the bigger person is sitting in the front seat.

We knew that if we were going to get a tandem, there war going to be a custom build, but we still wanted to try on some “regular” tandem, just to have an idea. One of Anna’s friends owns a tandem, and she arranged us to try it out.

It ended up being a total disaster. I was scared to death because I didn’t feel I could maintain the balance with a bigger weight behind me. Apparently it is different from when I have a shopping bag in the rear!

I tried several times, and I was unable to go for more than five feet. Anna said, she would try to be i n the front instead of me, and she managed to make a circle that way

Still, with this particular one, Boris could not pedal, because his knees were touching the handle bars.

I still want to try and to come up with some solution which would work for us, but looks like it has to be a totally crazy design.

Mom’s Walking Sticks

During my mom’s last doctor’s visit (we switched to the new primary care doctor) I mentioned that she refuses to use her cane when walking, and as a result, she falls often. The doctor suggested trying Nordic sticks instead: “Canes are for old people,” he said, winking, – “for those who can’t walk. and we are going to exercise, like active people.” I purchased the sticks, and on Saturday, we had a “test drive”.

I was surprised with how fast my mom got it. I noticed that she is not operating with her left hand the same way as with her right (and I asked her whether she keeps doing her hand exercises and reminded her to keep doing them. Also, I will need to check on whether she is using the sticks on her morning walks. But still, I was ready for her “I can’t do it,” but she did.

Thingers crossed!

Milwaukee Air And Water Show

Boris arrived on Friday night, and on Sunday morning, we were on our way to visit Anna and her Family in Milwaukee. That weekend was an Air and Water Show weekend, the same show that came to Chicago a couple weeks later.

My last two attempts to watch it in Chicago were not very enjoyable because you could hardly see things from the northern beaches, and getting closer takes time, and you end up in a huge crowd. In Milwaukee, it turned to be a way better!

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More On Breaking Stereotypes And Old Patterns

Last weekend, when we talked with Lena about breaking the eating habits, she touched upon breaking away from other things we were taught froman early age. She told me: since I do not remember how early in my life, my grandmother used to tell me that when I have a family, I should attend to my husband’s needs first, then to kid’s needs, and then to my own. And I can second her – that was a universal idea.

In addition, even though we had the same access to higher education and theoretically the same access to jobs, all of us – all female I knew – regarded their love life being more important than professional career, more than anything, Marriage was definitely the first priority since our early teens, and none of us could ever possibly imagine a happy life without marriage. At the same time, most of us thought that a woman should follow her husband whever life moves him, and that sacrificing all our personal desires, for “what he needs” was in our books of “being a noble person.” We despised those women who “chose their comfort over sharing their husband’s hardships.” That’s why my extremely gifted friend, who for some reason, didn’t consider herself a “marriage material,” got married right before graduation and moved with her husband to Baikonur (where her first child died in birth). That’s why we had a had time understanding what was so heroic in the decision of the Decembrists’ wives to follow their husbands to Siberia.

Actually, I think that we just spend too much time on our personal life and relationships (and who woud’ve thought I would say that!). That was another thing we talked about with Lena, and she seconds me. The funniest part is that my current high professional status is in a strange way a result of me being focused on love and relationships too much in my earlier life – this triggered a long sequence of events which resulted in me being where I am.

Life is the strangest thing. And I am not free from stereotypes, although I try :). My kids are better 🙂

Widow Clicquot Movie

I went to watch it at the Siskel Center with my mom on Wednesday. I’d say it was a success in terms of that my mom didn’t complain about “how she couldn’t understand anything.’ What was even more impressive is that after I sent to her a short description of the movie, she googled it and read more information, and was very well prepared. And she was able to read the closing remarks about the later years of Widow Clicquot, so we had a meaningful discussion on our way back home. I am always glad when I can find something stimulating for her, and get some fresh reactions.

I expected a little bit more from that movie; I liked it, but I didn’t “love-love” it. Now, I am waiting for a premier of “Sisi”- it should start in a week, but the Siskel Center still didn’t announce the showtimes.

Eating Habits And Health

I had this WBEZ piece in my list of opened tabs for a very long time. As much as it sounded reasonable, I internally disagreed with its message. When Lena visited last weekend, we ended up talking a lot about changing eating habits, and I decided to go back to that piece and the research it referred to.

To be precise, I agree with the opening statement that there is no “one best diet.” Also, I understand that the new immigrants might feel lonely in many ways, including missing familiar foods. However, many traditional foods of most cultures, including American traditional food, are objectively not the healthiest.

There are many historical and economic reasons for eating habits to be formed a certain way, but it does not mean we should keep following them out of the force of habit. The conditions of life have changed; most of our lives have changed compared to how people lived a hundred years ago, not even talking about the earlier times. Maybe something is wrong with me, but I don’t understand the “food nostalgia” many people born in Russia mention, like missing the condensed sweetened milk or some types of ice cream or sodas. I am not saying I am rejecting my heritage food entirely. There are tons of great foods that I not only use but also frequently advertise, such as multiple vegetable soups or buckwheat, but definitely not the fried fish or soups for which you would sautee the vegetables before adding them to the broth.

I often hear these ideas about “it’s better to eat what you are used to eat,” and i discgree with it categorically. When I chatted with Lena during the weekend, she told me how difficult it was for her to break the eating habits that were engraved in her brain by her mother and her grandmother and how long it took her to learn to listen to her body and to eat only when she wants and what her body really wants. And now, it makes some sense, I am coming back to the statement that was made on this WBEZ show – there is, indeed, no “one size fits all” in what, when, and how we eat. The same as one shouldn’t blindly follow “what everybody says is healthy” patterns, they probably should not follow “traditional” means “better pattern.

All of this was to say that I am really happy and proud of Lena for breaking her old habits and making positive changes in her lifestyle. Now, she does not say that “she does not like strength training,” and I am sure that very soon, she will be faster than me on her bike!

A Little Bit Foggy Sunrise

It was not even a fog, just a mist, and the morning was balm.

It was not exactly like this IRL, but it was very close!

Another Chicago Weekend – 2

Sunday was equally amazing. As it became our tradition, when Lena comes in summer, we do Loop activities on Saturday and Rogers Park activities on Sunday. And once again, it’s great that she enjoys the same activities as me.

We started the day with a bike ride. In the past, Lena was way slower than me, and she said she didn’t do much biking this season either, but somehow, this time she kept pace with me without any issues. If I only knew, I would suggest her to wake up earlier, and we could bike all the way to the Field Museum. But even a relatively short (15 miles) ride was great!

A spectacular sunrise!
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Another Chicago Weekend

I love having Lena in Chicago because she likes the same things that I like, so her favorite weekend is also my favorite. If she had a mini-vacation (which I hope she did), I also had it!

She arrived on Friday, and we even had some time to talk, but I was too tired to stay up late (on Thursday evening, my Amazon Fresh order was delayed, and I had to wait until 11:30PM!). But the next two days, we had a blast!

I made salmon and broccoli quiche for breakfast. My balcony is in the middle of repair, but they allowed us to but the furniture back during the non-working hours
Millenium Park had only two entrances open because of the 20-years celebration, and some parts were permanently closed, so we had to go through security multiple times
We were the first to enter the Art Institute on Saturday, and it was my third time to see the Georgia O’Keeffe exhibit.
We also saw the Christina Ramber retrospective, but I didn’t like it as much as I thought I would.
Then we went to the Member’s Lounge Bar
… and took tons of pictures of ourselves. BTW, Lena talked me into wearing a dress that day, saying that her only opportunity to wear a dress was when she visited me in Chicago.
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