Hettie’s Reflections – Blog Posts

TIME Magazine: How To Negotiate Your Medical Bill

I’ve been saying exactly what this article says to everyone—do not pay any medical bill you receive immediately! Never! This article lists all the steps and how they should be done. By the way, before my mom had Medicaid, I had to negotiate her bills, and I remember that I would receive a 30% discount just when I called the first time, without any negotiations. But to get even more discount, please follow the steps below.

I would also like to mention that I find it completely disgusting that in the US, we have to do it this way, that our healthcare is so screwed up!

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Orchid Show 2025

A new Orchid Show at Chicago Botanic Garden just opened, and my friend Lena and I do it every year, no matter how busy we are. Since things will become hectic in just a week, we decided to go on the very first day of the show, which was yesterday (not counting the opening night).

As always, we took my mom there, and as always, Lena invited one of her closest friends from Palatine, so we were all together as our usual group. We liked the show, although Lena and I both felt there was a little bit “less of everything” than the previous year. Fewer plants and less variety. Still, there was plenty to admire, and too many photos taken:)

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What Else Was Going On

This week was relatively low in activities because work was insane and because I had a lot of conferences-related things (yes, multiple conferences, and me being there in multiple capacities, do not autocorrect me, Grammarly!) However:

  • pre-op medical appointment on Monday
  • Talked to the organizers of one more Chicago Fintech conference, and we mutually agreed that I am not speaking there (a win, actually!) – also on Monday.
  • Got my RealID (the temp for now, but the actual one coming in the mail) – Tuesday
  • CSO concert plus a dinner in the Thomas club to celebrate my neighbor’s birthday—also on Tuesday (a side note—I love Salonen as a conductor, but his own music does not touch me, and I wish he wouldn’t include his pieces in each program he conducts!).
  • ODS dinner on Wednesday. We made meatballs (on the residents’ request), which we hadn’t made for a while, and there was great engagement and very good conversations.
  • Thursday – as described. To answer the passport questions – I couldn’t renew online because my passport is not expiring within the next year, I just ran out of pages. And taking and editing my own photo would take longer than using professional services.
  • Friday – finally, a quiet day, things started to wind down at work.
  • And it looks like a nice weekend coming up!

A Busy Day Of a Busy Week

On top of everything else this week, I had an ear infection, and I had to apply for RealID and for a new passport. An ear infection just happened at the most inconvenient moment; with the RealID was a real thing. I thought about it “eventually, and i have a passport, so what’s the big deal,” but then I realized that I need to renew my passport because I am running out of pages, and now is the longest interval between my travels. And while my passport will be on renewal, I can’t use it for domest travel either.

My Thursday looked like this: a usual early start, two meetings, telemedicine appointment to get antibiotics (yes, I know it’s a horrible practice, and I always try to avoid it, but I didn’t have time even for Minute Clinic, yet alone a proper doctor appointment, and I although I didn’t have fever, I felt sick, and that affected my productivity in all areas of life.

The teledoctor (who saw me for the first time) tols me that it can’t be ear infection because I didn’t have fever, and we should try to unclogg the ear, but still gave me an antibiotic prescription “if nothing else would work.” I asked to sent the prescription to the CVS Target, because this location would work well with all other errands I had. After lunch, I found a USPS envelope in our supply room, taped on the label I printed at home and put inside all my passport documentation. Then, I went to pick up prescription and then crossed the State Street to take a passport picture at Walgreens. There, I had a bad luck – their passport pictures machine was broken, so I Googled the next closest place, which happened to be some scatchy-looking facility in front of the Post Office, which was my next stop anyway. There, I took a passport picture, asked them for a stapler, stapled the photo to my passport form and sealed the envelope. Crossed the street one more time, and dropped the envelope at the post office, and now the package is on the way to it’s destination. I requested a large passport book and expedited service, so I hope the it will be processed on time, and I won’t need to get a new passport three years before the expiration date (that’s what I had to do now).

I have to say, that antibiotics was the right choice – I felt that I am moving into right direction by yesterday’s evening, and this morning I didn’t feel sick (although not completely fine either, but on track to recovery). I was able to close a couple of service tickets during the last hour and a half of my workday, and then stopped by my mom, and then attended an online yoga class in the evening, and managed to go to bed at normal time. The latter one is a huge achievement of mine – so far, I have six hours of sleep almost every night since I returned from Helsinki.

Out Of Practice!

There were sweet potatoes in my CSA delivery last Friday, and that’s always a reason to bake sweet potato pie. On Saturday morning, right after breakfast, I peeled sweet potatoes and put them on the stove to boil. And since my kitchen is far from the living room, I forgot about it and went to Jewel Osco to get a couple of things. It’s a very short trip, but I entirely forgot about potatoes and didn’t even reduce the heat. When I returned, I smelled burn :).

Most of the potatoes were salvageable, but since all the water evaporated, they became salty instead of slightly salty :). Also, the saucepan was ruined. I put some effort into cleaning it, but it was not worth it!

I still wanted to make a sweet potato pie, and I remembered that I have one more large sweet potato from the previous delivery, so I took another saucepan, peeled this potato and put it to boil without any salt, hoping that I could mix the two ,and the mixture will be just slightly salted. Guess what happened? I forgot about it again!!!

Once again (and I didn’t leave the house that time), I only realized what I’d done when I smelled burning coming from the kitchen!!! One more saucepan ruined!

At the end, I made a sweet potatoe pie! And I bought a new saucepad, which matches my kitchen color:)

Time Magazine:The Dating Wealth Gap

Time Magazine article The Dating Wealth Gap is Getting Wider talks not about the “gap in wealth” between two people dating, but more precisely, about situations when women make significantly more than men. That reminded me of how I recently saw a discussion about DEI where people said, “Well, nobody would object if the wife brings home an extra 30% of the income.” When I saw this comment, I thought: that has nothing to do with women’s equality! I wonder how you would feel in a relationship when a woman makes four or five times more than her partner! Or even fifteen times more. If everyone feels comfortable in this situation, we can discuss equality!

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Tips for Black History Month- 2025 Emergency Edition

a must-read.

Conferences

It’s a perfect storm of upcoming events.

  • One of my talks was accepted for the SCaLE conference (first week of March in Pasadena). This one is the easiest – I can reuse my September talk, I just need to refresh my memory regarding the examples, and as usual, I need to advertise it on social media
  • I was invited to give a short talk at the Chicago DevOps Day on March 27. They chose my security talk, but I need to create a “Lighting version” of it, which will be extremely challenging
  • I am (maybe) invited to a financial conference in Chicago on March 27, I will talk with them on Monday and hopefully figure out whether I am doing it or not.
  • I am invited to do a podcast on Data Bene. I am talking with them on Tuesday, and we will decide on a date.
  • My security talk was accepted for PG Day Chicago. The last time I gave it was a year ago, and many things have changed since then, so I need to prepare a new version of it
  • On top of that, I need to address all aspects of the conference itself (a list too long to put here) and even a longer list for DevDay, which will precede it.
  • None of my talks for PgCon.dev were accepted, but the Community Summit proposal to which I was last-minute invited was, and now we have a lot of work ahead!

  • And this has been all along with work and other aspects of life!

One More Elpha Post

Since I almost lost one of my Elpha posts, I want to make sure another one is also stored permanently. Actually, I might have published it already, but just in case!

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Approaching Chicago

I almost never post the views from the airplane window, but I like that one!