Hettie’s Reflections – Blog Posts

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As it is clear from my last several posts, I am on my way to “back to normal.” However, something has permanently changed; in some sense, it is a “new normal,” and I am trying to figure out how the past several months have changed me.

One thing is that I feel removed from “ordinary human feelings,” and I am unsure whether this is here to stay with me. Since October last year, I have been so focused on Prairie Postgres that everything else has become non-essential. I blame myself for not contributing to election campaign, not doing canvassing, not talking enough about the issues. I was among many who didn’t do enough. I definitely didn’t have “cycles” for that, but still.

My decision matrix, my Eisenhower quadrants, were skewed to the sole purpose of making sure the Chicago conference happens, and the Chicago community is not negatively affected. I consistently find myself at a loss responding to “how are things with you, what’s new in your life?” I mean people, who might not be my closest friends, but who know me well enough or care enough so that I can’t reply: “All good, thank you for asking.” Still, I understand that it would be the weirdest thing to start answering such questions with what is really on my mind. Because the honest answer would be something like that: “For several months, some people were trying to make my life incredibly difficult to the point I was afraid to check my email, and they were trying to stop me from doing things which were important to me and to my community. There were many times when I wanted to quit and walk out, but I did not give up, and now everything is good, and nobody is after me.” And that’s the first, second and third most important thing in my life.

I know that I didn’t talk enough with many people who care about me, and I care about them. There were several months of ignoring emails, skipping events, and telling myself that I will have time for all of that later. I can only imagine how many of my friends, especially my “remote” friends think that I forgot about them, or that their lives are not interesting to me anymore.

Looking back at the past several months, I do not know how I did it :). When i was at the PGConf.dev, and when I attended multiple meetups last week, many of those to whom I told about my not-for-profits reacted: oh, you got 501(c)?! Congratulations! Or asked me: is it your full time job? So, I guess, I did something good, and something to be proud of.

Still, I want to get back to “being human,” but Prairie Postgres would still remain not “one of the things” I am doing, but “the most important thing” I am going, and hopefully the thing that outlive me :).

Guarneri Hall

One more “first time” this week – I went to a concert at the Guarneri Hall. It’s a shame I didn’t know about its existence until I heard the story on WBEZ. Since then, I have tried to find a concert that I would love to attend, that I could attend, and one that is not sold out! Finally, all stars aligned, and I was there on Thursday!

It is a former recording studio in the heart of the city, with only forty people’s capacity, that delivers an unmatched experience for any music lover. I can’t even describe the difference in the quality of the sound it makes. I sat with my mouth open for the duration of the concert!

It turned out that they have a reception after each concert; I didn’t stay because I didn’t feel right staying for just fifteen minutes and leaving, but I will definitely plan to stay next time.

Thursday was the day when they announced the next season and opened the sales, and I already got two tickets, and now I’m torn between wanting to purchase each and every concert and not wanting to risk wasting money if I won’t be able to attend. I will do one more swap :).

Lower Waker

Super-interesting piece on WBEZ Curious City about the Lower Wacker Drive. Not sure whether anybody outside Chicago would be interested, but copying here just in case somebody does 🙂

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My Community Work

The past several days, starting with my return from PGConf.dev, were densely filled with various community activities.

On Sunday, I went to the Chicago Code and Coffee meetup (I planned to do this for a couple of months, but ran into a conflict each time).

It was as loud and loosely organized as it could possibly be with over three hundred nerds in one not-so-large space. The Capital Cafe decided to sponsor the meetup with free drinks, and everyone took advantage of this opportunity. I thought I would not survive in this noise level, but the organizer allowed me to speak immediately after the volunteers, so I was able to advertise my events and myself :). As a result, I have several people joined our new user group, and several RSVPs to Tuesday event.

On Tuesday, I hosted a second meetup of Prairie PUG. Inspired by what I saw at DevOpsDay Chicago, I announced the Developers’ Summit and invited application developers who use Postgres to discuss their pain points and possible solutions. I planned this event for a while, but had to postpone it several times. Finally, i was able to make it a reality.

It went really well (I neglected to take pictures of the group discussions, and only took some during the final presentations, but it was a definite success). The conversations continued after we were done with the “official” part and went back to the cafe for remaining pizza.

Then on Wednesday, I went to yet another meetup! it was the 10th anniversary of AWS meetup. I was planning to start attending this meetup, but for one reason or the other, it never worked. It almost didn’t work this time as well, because there was one more event on the same evening, but I decided I can come for just an hour, and it will be better than nothing!

I came, and talked to the organizers, and also found out that several of the Postgres meetup members attended the AWS meetup as well. I talked with several people, and told them about Prairie Postgres, and distributed my flyers. I saw that two more people joined my meetup next day, so it was not completely useless!

Another event I wanted to attend on the same day was a local CAPS beat meeting. I consider these meetings of police with local residents very important; it was unfortunate that I had so many conflicts this year and could barely attend any of them. This time, I was a little bit late, but was still able to sit through most of the meeting. Out Beat representatives talked about the crime statistics, asked about the incidents we observed on our blocks, explained which apps to use to report crimes, potentially dangerous situations and problems which do not require police involvement. I picked up several flyers for future reference.

I think it was my mistake that I ignored all “other” meetups in the past, and I am glad I started to change it. Overall, I feel like slowly starting to get back to my “normal self.”

Love It Here!

I was shopping for plants outside the Charmer’s (yes, they are a flower shop in addition to being a cafe). A group of bikers exited the cafe and walked towards their bikes. I overheard them continuing their conversation:”… and look, maybe you will live here one day! It’s a nice place!” I couldn’t keep from smiling, and one of them saw my smile and asked: “Do you agree?” I said, “Yes, that’s the right place to live!” They turned to me: How long did you live here? Did you live in other Chicago neighborhoods before that? Ans I told them that that’s one of the best decisions I made, and I didn’t regret a single day!

Charmer’s

My New Floors

When I bought this apartment, I had to fix many things just to move in. I had a limited budget and limited time, so I decided that the floors could wait. Retrospectively, if I had known back then how fast I could get the floors fixed, I might have reconsidered, but it probably won’t fit my budget anyway.

Then I was busy with other things, and didn’t have mental energy to start this project, until finally I realized I can’t look at the floors with so many bald spots anymore. I call the person who did all my painting jobs for the past three years, and he connected me to a partnering business. They did an absolutely miraculous job!

We agreed that they will work during the week I will be in Montreal. They had to move the furniture twice, and let the floor dry in between. I wanted to keep the same color, but stain the floors instead of painting, and they did exactly that! The color is just like it was, but now I can see the wood structure. The whole apartment looks so new, just “out of the box.”

Also, they actually finished a day earlier, because they wanted to make sure everything is done before I arrive. The put a couple of furniture pieces in the wrong places, but when I mentioned that, tw people came the next morning and put everything back. And I can’t stop admiring my floors 🙂

At YUL Airport

It was the first time in several years that I didn’t have a lounge in the airport, and it was completely unexpected! I flew with American Airlines, but somehow, flights to the US are not “international,” and I was in the domestic sector of the airport, and could not access the One World lounge 😂. I had to find another place with a hot breakfast!

Alt Hotel

I wanted to mention again how much I loved the hotel I stayed in Montreal. The room was very spacious and exceptionally well-designed, with a comfortable desk and an additional table, and just plenty of room. Also, they actually didn’t change the towels if you don’t drop them on the floor! Most hotels say they won’t, but end up changing anyway. And I loved the gym.

The only thing I didn’t like was the absence of a normal (not continental) breakfast. At the conference venue, we had fruits(yay!) and pastries, and that was it. I do not mind such breakfast occasionally, but not for the whole week. Unfortunately, although the hotel front desk could make you a cappuccino any time, day or night, or any other caffeinated drinks, the food was just yogurt, eggs, bagels, and croissants.

Exceptionally good croissants, but I wanted some real food :). The breakfast place across the street, although open at 7 AM, didn’t have the kitchen start until 9 AM, so once again – great pastries, but that’s it.

By Thursday, I was ready to walk to a place which potentially had breakfast food, about a 20-25 minute walk from the hotel, but then I remembered that the Women’s breakfast was scheduled for this morning, which I had to attend. I hoped that they would serve something else than at the conference breakfast, but alas!

I gave this hotel the 5-star review, but I was extatic to return to our office breakfasts this week!

Beautiful People

During the conference, I had a chance to catch up with some people whom I do not see very often, and I also met several new amazing people. I was really impressed with the students and recent graduates. All of them were so enthusiastic, so eager to learn new things, ready to participate in all discussions, to volunteer! Truly amazing!

These students from Kenya are so sharp! And so fun to hang out with 🙂

A picture from Women’s Breakfast

Montreal At Dusk

I didn’t see enough of Montreal, but here are some pictures taken on the way back to the hotel from one of many dinners :). I love how the city looks in the twilight.