Hettie’s Reflections – Blog Posts

Marion Mahony Griffin Beach

This beach is not ten, but a five-minute walk from my house, but it always felt like “too small, too crowded,” and not allowing me to enjoy the lake in all its glory.

However, I decided to give it another try for my early mornings, and it turned out that there were just a couple of people at that time of the day, doing the same thing as I – immersing in the calm, warm water, and then walking back home.

I will do it again 🙂

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Yesterday, I finally stepped down from one of my activities: The Howard/Evanstone Community Board. I was very hesitant to join this Board from the start, and the reason I ended up joining was my desire to help my local community in addition to helping the world at large :). Also, I indicated from the very beginning that my commitment will be limited, and I will only participate in the strategic initiatives group.

However, during these last two years, I was still unable to get an answer regarding our budget and measuring the effect of any of the programs that we ran. And there was a huge push to participate in the direct fundraising efforts, which I refused from the start.

When I agreed to run for the LPI Board, I promised myself that in the unlikely event I am elected, I will drop one of my existing volunteering activities, and that was the one. I am actually proud that I did it – I do not take these things lightly. Also, I didn’t want to resign by email, so I came to the quarterly meeting and talked with the CEO and explained.

It seemed as though he had expected it, and he said he completely understood. I still felt bad, but it was the right thing to do.

Office Events

This week is packed with multiple office events. On Tuesday, our firm hosted a workshop organized by 100 Women in Finance. Rebecca Malotke-Meslin talked about negotiationg strategies. I was hoping for more generic negotiation techniques, but it was mostly about salary and promotion negotiations, although very well done!

Today, we had a Women Networking Breakfast at our rooftop. A little piece of irony: our regular breakfast is/was much better! We had a fruit salad, Greek yogurt, spinach and onion scramble, and proscutto and pesto scramble. And an apricot-raspberry topping for oatmeal. And freshly baked croissants. And the networking breakfast had iced coffee, chocolate croissants, and donuts. So I had a “normal breakfast” and then went to networking!

Tons of great conversations, new connections and catching up!

At Work And Outside Work

My biggest disappointment of the last weekend was that I didn’t even start multiple projects, which I had planned to both start and finish over the weekend. I believe that my bad planning was the root cause of the problem, as the said plan was completely unrealistic. I was planning how “time-sensitive” events would fit into the schedule without giving a thought to all other activities that had to happen at some point, even if they didn’t have a pre-defined start and end time.

Not only did I leave a lot of conference-related action items incomplete, but I didn’t even start anything related to my conference talks prep, and I have four different talks to prepare, including my huge tutorial, which I barely started. I spent a significant portion of my time panicking about all of the above, along with a clear understanding that summer is short and I have only that many beach days left.

My worktime is extremely intense, and if I manage to carve some time to do something not-work-related, I have to do some work after work. The not-work-related include answering web designers questions two or three times per day, including providing new content, meeting with the whole org committee and individual members about their specific tasks.

I know that in a long run, this will save me time. For example, I talked to a person who volunteered to do our newsletter. I sent her a sample, sent a draft of the next newsletter, asked her to complete, reviewed her work, and met with her on zoom twice. She will be a huge help, but this week, it took over two hours of my time. Same goes to our social media accounts, people who will be handling catering, conference lodging, etc. Their help will be essential, but this week I am panicking because I am late with everything!

On top of that, during the first two days of this week I was asked 1) to vote up one Postgres patch (why me???) 2) to review a book proposal (I refused) 3) to write a new book (“because people like my writing”) – I said to reach out in six months 4) to give my opinion on the work of one of the Postgres “rising stars” company (I agreed and accepted a meeting invite).

… and I worked on my presentations for forty minutes only, when I need many hours!

The Morning Lake

Last summer, I discovered the pleasure of going to the beach early in the morning, before going to work, and this summer, I was not going to wait till the end of August.

Today was the first day I did it this season. I was unsure whether the lake is warm enough so that the water in the morning will be warm, and it was!

No picture can express the joy of immersing yourself into the lake facing the rising sun! All my tiredness of the past two weeks was washed away. You can tell that I was not the first person on the beach this morning, but pretty close to the first 🙂

It’s interesting that, apparently, the upcoming Thursday is International Self-Care Day. 🤷🏻‍♀️ My firm hosts multiple related events, but my best possible self-care was this morning! The only thing I need to figure out is how I can get this constantly missing extra half-hour of sleep.

The Factory Theater

The Factory Theater was the last of our neighborhood theaters that was on my to-see list, and that was the first time I finally went to see a performance there. The play description looked incredibly appealing:

Also, I realized that the past Saturday was the last opportunity to see it, so I made an effort, even though I was tired and had a million things to do.

The theater foyer exhibited the history of the motion pictures and the invention of the camera

Probably because I had high expectations, it was a slightly disappointing experience. The show “didn’t hold,” which would be understandable if it were an opening night, but that was the closing. I can’t say anything in particular about what exactly was bad, but it felt less professional than three other neighborhood storefront theaters I patronize. I am willing to give it the benefit of the doubt: it could be just a one-off, or it could be that I was tired, so I am going to try it at least one more time next season.

New Appliance

I was on and off about whether I want to have a “normal” espresso maker. For many years, I was pretty happy with my mechanical espresso machine, which my kids gave me for Christmas many years ago. I liked its authenticity and uniqueness, but at some point, two things started to bother me: it took a long time to make two espresso shots (technically, you could do two cups in parallel, but then you would need to run the machine twice in a row) and the fact that boiling water is not steam, so the espresso would end up colder than I would like, especially if you want to make cappuccino, or just two espressos.

At the same time, I didn’t want to clutter my kitchen with more appliances because I felt I already had too many, and I don’t need to make espresso at home very often. I would love to be able to make a proper cappuccino, but I knew that this requires some skills, not only the equipment. For the past two years, I have started shopping for an espresso machine several times, and each time I decided I didn’t need it. That was all, until a couple of weeks ago, when the Shopsale app threw a $35 espresso machine in my face. I could not resist. I decided I could throw it away if it doesn’t work for me.

This weekend I finally unpacked it, read instructions, and set it up. At first, I experimented in the dining room, but I quickly realized it was not a great idea. Fortunately, this appliance is really small, so I was able to put it on a kitchen shelf (and moved the ROK to my home museum shelf side by side to the old German meat grinder). It produces an amazing espresso. I still need to work on making a cappuccino, but even the first attempt wasn’t a complete failure!

Friday

It’s not a mistake – I know that today is Sunday, and pretty late on Sunday! It’s just that looking back to Friday, I am wondering yet again why I think that weekends are inflatable!

Friday was great in some sense, because I had zero meetings at work, and nobody distracted me with anything “urgent,” so I was able to make progress on several tasks that required concentration, and close a whole bunch of tickets! I left work in a rearest state of “I’ve done everything!” Also, a friend who invited me on an art tour canceled, and I decided not to go on my own. I was hoping that this would give me extra time to focus on my conference presentations, which are many, and some are due soon!

However, there were so many other urgent things that had to be completed/resolved/started before Monday, that I did exactly zero for my presentations. Looking back at the weekend, I see that everything I’ve done was necessary and overdue, and I am happy I was able to address some of these, but once again – I need more time!

Long Bike Rides

Some pretty pictures from my Saturday morning ride:

And today, it was the first time I ventured well south of the Aquarium:

SNAP Renewal

My mom knew that her SNAP was set to expire at the end of August, and she was nervous about what would happen with the rest of the money she had left there. I told her that SNAP will be renewed, but I knew it was not automatic (not like her Medicaid, which is almost automatic – I just had to confirm online that nothing changed).

As I already mentioned many times, the IDHS site is far from being intuitive, so I could not figure out how to reapply until I received a paper letter explaining that :). Fortunately, when I took my mom to apply for SNAP two years ago, she signed the papers allowing me to be her legal representative, so I receive copies of all communications. I submitted the application, and the system replied that since I indicated I can’t come to the office due to work constraints, they will schedule a phone interview. I worried that I would have to leave the office and sit with mom waiting for this call at the most inconvenient time, but when the letter with the interview date/time arrived, I realized that they don’t need my mom; they can talk with me directly, and that was a relief and a huge time saver.

It turned out that at some point during the submission process, I indicated a preference for oral communications in Russian (leaving paper communications in English). I think that was when I was unsure whether my mom would have to be present. I thought that it would mean they would bring an interpreter on the call, which would make things worse (that’s why I usually do not check this option). But this time, a miracle happened! The person who called me was an actual Russian speaking person; I guess at least partially because of a large number of Ukrainain refugees, this option has become available. And because of that, the renewal took just 5 minutes. She asked: so, you reported no income for your mom? I replied: yes, let me tell you the whole story. My mom used to receive her pension and use it here, but since the war started… I didn’t even have to say another word. She said: Ok, I am putting the notes here. She will receive a renewal in the mail in a couple of weeks. She even explained to me about the cash assistance (my mom can’t get it until we reapply for SSI, so her explanation saved me some time).

The fastest renewal ever!