Author: Hettie D.

My name is Henrietta (Hettie) Dombrovskaya. I was born in Saint-Petersburg, Russian (actually, back then – Leningrad, USSR) in 1963, and immigrated to the United States in 1996. I love Saint Petersburg, the city I was born and raised in, and I think it’s one of the most beautiful places in the world. Similarly (but differently) I love Chicago, and can’t imagine myself moving somewhere else in the observable future. I have three children, Igor, Vlad and Anna, all adults living on their own, and one (so far) granddaughter Nadia. I also believe that my children are the best thing that happened in my life. As for my professional life, I am working in the field of Information Technologies. When I was twenty, I’ve declared that the databases are the coolest thing invented and that I want to do them for the rest of my life. Thirty plus years later, I still believe it’s true, and still, believe that the databases are the best. These two statements together imply that I think a person can have it all, and indeed, I think so! Keep reading my journals to find out how I did it.

About The Radio And Being In Direct Reach

I just think that people in the US can’t really understand the concerns of the European nations regarding potential Russian aggression. Yes, there was a Cold War. Yes, there was “duck and cover,” building bomb shelters, and such. But the US never experienced an actual Russian aggression, so all these scares were and still are very abstract.

I thought about that when Boris showed me his recent purchase last week. It was more like a joke for him, but the backstory is worth mentioning.

This is a Philips radio, which also has a large flashlight and a built-in siren. It can be charged from a wall outlet or a USB port, but it also has a built-in solar battery and, as a last resort, a rotating handle that you can turn to generate some electricity by hand. And in addition, it can be used to charge other devices via USB.

Overall, it can be viewed as a perfect “rescue me if I am lost in the woods while hiking” device, except for one small thing. The first time this radio appeared in a store was when the Finnish government was seriously preparing for potential Russian aggression and asked all citizens to have a three-day food and water supply, and to note the location of their nearest bomb shelter.

Half of Europe experienced direct Russian aggression over the last hundred years. Many cities were shelled and partially or almost completely ruined. Many countries lost big chunks of their territory. It’s very real and very close. It’s in people’s memories. And I don’t know how to get it into my countrymen’s heads that it’s not OK.

Support Ukraine Rally

This weekend, my best friend Lena from Ann Arbor came for her annual “Orchid Show visit.” Now, this visit has another, somber meaning. Although the show runs from the beginning of February to the end of March, we try to plan Lena’s visit so we can attend the rally in support of Ukraine, marking the dark anniversary of the full-scale invasion.

Igor was there before us, in a better position and with a better camera, so the pictures are mostly his. Also, I will come back to this post to fill in the names of the speakers, because I am not 100% sure of most of them.

One thing I noticed is that over these four years, everyone learned to say “Slava Ukraine!” without an accent. And the Lithuanian Consul General gave the entire introductory part in Ukrainian, which caused uproar from the crowd. As always, I was happy to see Dick Durbin, a great supporter of Ukraine (and I learned that his ancestors were from Lithuania!)

Pre-rally: Senator Durbin talking to the Iranian activists
Pre-rally

The rally started with the USA and Ukrainian Anthems.

Senator Durbin took the stage and told the crowd that there is support for Ukraine on both sides of the aisle, and that he will keep fighting.

Mariya Dmytriv-Kapeniak
Dick Durbin
‘The only fight we can’t win is the one we do not fight!”
Consul General of Lithuania Reginmantas Jablonskas

It was cold, but we stayed there for an hour and a half, and the whole time I was thinking about our visit to Vilnius in March 2022 and how there were Ukrainian refugees everywhere. We could not imagine back then how long the full-scale war would last, and we hoped for a quick victory for Ukraine. I know that we need to focus on our fight at home, because our victory at home will benefit the rest of the world, but I still feel that I am not doing enough to support Ukraine. Not talking enough about the war, and letting people to forget.

Last week, Boris asked me whether people around me know how often Kyiv is shelled. I told him: oh, I know! And he asked, “What about the others around you?” Again, I understand that out atmost focus is here and now, but still…

How Low ICE Can Go

ICE arresting Native Americans – I don’t know how much lower they could possibly go!

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Mäkelä Conducts Sibelius

On Thursday, I was at the CSO again, and it was another exceptional program. I am still in the process of familiarising myself with our new future Musical Director, but I am getting to know his style more and more.

During the first part of the Thursday concert, Mäkelä was conducting Sibelius’ Lemminkäinen, and the program book was full of the Helsinki pictures, so I overloaded my neighbor with extra information about the Sibelius Monument, Kelevala, kantele, Larin Paraske, and Akseli Gallen-Kallela (his Lemminkäinen’s Mother was in the program book). In short, lots of unsolicited information :). I think she barely survived :).

Mäkelä was fantastic (and also, as I said, I am slowly “growing into him.” I can’t find a recording of Mäkelä conducting Lemminkäinen, so here is the only one I found. I am sure I will have more opportunities to listen to Mäkelä conducting in the years to come, and hopefully I will be able to share more videos.

Prairie Postgres February Meetup

Knock on wood, but for the longest time now, each meetup is a success. I can’t recall when was the last time we had a meetup with poor attendance. Once again, there was a great presenter, tons of questions, my favorite “active crowd,” and long conversations after the talk.

The thing I like the most is that attendees collaborate and interact between the meetups, without me:). I know that they come not only because I am an influencer, and not only because we have pizza, but also because they value their interactions. Yesterday, two PUG members asked me whether I wanted to know about the project they started together. I replied with an enthusiastic YES, and they told me about something really awesome they built as a follow-up to some of our “after-sessions” discussions. I love it!

Stolen Focus: A Short Review

I really liked the first half of Stolen Focus. I liked how the author described his initial frustration with his nephew’s inability to focus on real life and his own declining ability to focus, and how he originally attributed this to a lack of willpower (like most of us do). Then, he shifts from the idea that restoring focus depends on individuals to the understanding that there are certain societal forces and techniques used by social media and other online platforms that reward this behavior. After meeting and talking to people who claimed they could successfully break from these dependencies, he seems to be back to his original thought, and I like how he shows his thought process, going back and forth.

What I liked most was the concept of “cruel optimism”, which can be described as “you can overcome negative influence if you deploy certain techniques, and anyone can do this if they try.” I am guilty of doing a similar thing for many years, telling people that “if I could do it, they could do it as well.” It took me many years to learn to stop giving advice and explaining to people what and how they should do. I still fall into this behavior from time to time, but at least I recognize it and try to stop 🙂

The second half was less interesting because it mostly repeated well-known facts about the environment and general recommendations on how to minimize its impact, as well as rather generic self-help recommendations, so in the end, I was more disappointed than excited about this book, but I will definitely use the “cruel optimism” concept in my future discussions.

Firsthand Democracy

Yesterday, I was at the WTTW studio for a kickoff broadcast and stream event for FIRSTHAND: DEMOCRACY. The event description said:

We’ll preview the documentaries, hold a panel discussion about democracy in Chicago and Illinois, and field questions from local residents. Brandis Friedman, Chicago Tonight Alexandra and John Nichols Chief Correspondent and Anchor, will host this live studio audience event. 

Reading this description, I was under the impression that we would see the documentary, which didn’t happen – we saw only small excerpts of it. However, some of the people featured in the documentary were present either on the panel or in the audience and shared their thoughts.

WTTW will run this initiative for the whole year, documenting how individuals and local organizations are responding proactively in their own communities. FIRSTHAND: DEMOCRACYwill present documentary films, investigative reporting, and a series of public events and conversations focused on civic participation, accountability, and the role of everyday people in democratic life.

To be honest, I feel very sad as the 250 annivesary of the signing of the Declaration of Independence is approaching. I was anticipating this year, this date, for at least twenty years! I was imagining how awesome it will be to be here, and celebrate with the rest of the country. And now Trump ruined it all, and I am contemplating being out of the country on July 4.

This is probably a coward tactic, and probably the right thing to do is to be here and not let Tump ruin this day. It’s our day, not his. But I am unsure how I will feel. Yesterday’s event participants talked about the strategies one can deploy while talking with someone with opposed political views. They were giving really good advices about listening, finding out what drives this person’s views, what are their values, where they are coming from. It’s true that many people just do not have enough information, or do not have time or mental capacity to research information, or their information sources are very homogeneous, and as soon as thye are exposed to a variety of informaiton, their views might start shifting.

All is true. However, today, I wen to search for the photo which people reference as a “Rockwell Kent St-Paul photo,” and ran into the whole series of MN photos again. And started to cry again. I wll never get over it. The announcement that ICE is leaving Minnesota came out yesterday, confirmed and approved. Not just the 700 presiously announced, but basically everyone – the whole operation is shutting down. But I will never get over over it. I will never get over the fact that it had to be blood to make it happen. Death is irreversable.

The photo everyone is talking about

How The Long Weekend Was Spent

I can’t say I didn’t have fun this weekend. I had a pottery class with Nadia, I saw Salome, and I biked. Still, most of my time was my non-work work.

I finally finished my presentation slides for SCaLE and got an idea of how I will be presenting this new topic. Besides that, there was a lot of emailing on different aspects of PG DATA. We got one more Community Sponsor, and a Lanyard Sponsor, and for the first time ever, we are seriously talking about an Academic Partnership with one of the Universities.

On Friday, when I was walking to the Union Station after work, I looked up at the sunset and thought that, despite all complications, setbacks, and time-consuming discussions, things are going the right way! I invested so much of my soul intot his conference, and it is turning out great (knock on wood :)).

A Couple Of Sunny Days, And Morning Biking

I know it’s not spring yet, just a couple of warm days in the middle of winter, but I am so thankful for them!

I got on the bike both Sunday and Monday, and saw the sunrise over the lake!

Pottery Class

I gave a Pottery Class Christmas gift to Nadia and Kira, but Kira got sick the morning of the day I was going to pick both of them up in Milwaukee. After discussion with Anna, we decided that I will still take Nadia for that class, and figure out something else for Kira.

Looks like it was for the better, since the class turned out to be way more advanced than advertised. Although no previous experience was needed, there were a lot of instructions, which Kira probably wouldn’t like :).

Nadia and I had a great time, though!


Nadia’s bowl
My orchid pot

After the class, we went to Ryo Sushi, then to Amorino gelato, and spent some time at the Art Institute Ryan Center on some crafts. As Nadia put it, “it gives her an inspiration.”

Time well spent :). Also, Nadia made a Valentine for me: