The Earliest I Know: My Paternal Grandmother’s Family

I started to record everything I remember about my family history in 2008, but all these notes are in Russian. When I started this blog, I had an ambitious goal to write down everything I remember about my family history, including my own. Back then, I decided to start with the latter because I thought it was important to start with the non-recorded parts. Now, six years later, I am still far from done with that endeavor, but I realized that translating from Russian is also not a small undertaking, and I’d better start :).

That being said, Hettie’s Timeline is now going to grow its head 😀

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My paternal grandmother’s family represents the purest Jewish part of my ancestry. Most of the things I know about the great-great-grandparents are apocryphal, meaning I cannot tell how far or close they are from the truth. My grandaunt told me most of what’s written in this post, and I have zero supporting documentation.

Both the Levitin and Sandalov families lived in Priluki in the Poltava Governorate of the Russian Empire, in the Pale of Settlement. Both families were Levites, who preserved their purity and married within their cast until my second aunt married a tailor’s son.

My great-great-grandfather Mark (Morduh) Sandalov was from a rabbi’s family, but unlike his brothers, he was an atheist, and thus was, if not excommunicated, at least denied any financial assistance. His bride was only fourteen when they got married, and according to the family legend, her first eight babies were either stillborn or died in infancy, and out of the eight more children she had later, only four lived to become adults. My great-aunt told me that my great-great-grandmother was very smart, and she taught herself several languages, and even math, but she wouldn’t have had any chance to receive any formal education even if she hadn’t gotten married that early.

As for her children, I thought that I only knew about two of them, but my second cousin filled in the gaps. The oldest of the surviving children was Rachel, the second was my great-grandmother Gitly, and they also had a younger sister, Golda (Aglae), who died relatively young from cancer. Also, they had a son (and I hope my cousin will be able to recover his name). My cousin said that this son went to America, where he changed his last name from Sandalov to Sandler, and the family eventually lost contact with him.

“Antie Rachel” passed away before I was born, and I thought that she never married, but as I found out, she was married to a cousin of her brother-in-law, but he died young. She had one daughter, Maria, whom I vaguely remember. According to a family legend, Ant Rachel was quite a “businesswoman,” which was extremely unusual in our family. She stepped up to run a dry goods store instead of her father, Mark, who was exceptionally impractical and not a businessman at all. She turned his store and a warehouse into a well-run and profitable business, which she voluntarily handed to the Soviets after the October Revolution, not because she was afraid of her business being taken by force, but because the whole family embraced the change.

When I say that I am a product of three generations of revolutionaries, I mean not only the Dombrowski side of the family but also my Jewish ancestors. Gitly Sandalov married Isroel-Dovid Levitin. He was definitely a member of one of the revolutionary parties, but I am not 100% sure he was a Bolshevik. It might be another family legend as well. My great-aunt told me that he was “under official police surveillance” (glasnyi nadrzor politsii) in contrast to “unofficial” (neflasnyi nadzor), and thus the police were “conducting surveillance” in their house from time to time. She used to tell me the story about the “party papers,” which were hidden inside the grand piano, and how policemen ordered her to play, and knowing where the papers were, she was trying not to hit these keys.

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The family got their share of pogroms, both before the October Revolution and during the Civil War. As it was usually happening, their Ukrainian friends would hide them during pogroms. As my great-aunt used to say: “Each of the pogromshik had a friend, regarding whom they would say: yea, Juds are Juds, there is no question about it, but this Jud is special, not like others.”

And in case my readers didn’t connect the dots yet, the grave I found last year in Estonia is the grave of Isroel-Dovid (David) Levitin, the husband of Gitly (Gustava) Sandalova and my great-grandfather. So that I won’t look for their dates of birth anymore, he was born on January 25, 1883, and died on June 6, 1955. I will add the exact dates for Gitly when I verify them, but she was born in 1886 and died in April 1970.

They had three children. Grunia (Henrietta), my grandmother, was born on August 27, 1903; Feiga-Sora (Faina) was born on September 7, 1904; and Moishe (Michail) was born on March 9, 1912.

My historical posts are being published in random order. Please refer to the page Hettie’s timeline to find where exactly each post belongs and what was before and after.

Africa Fashion

A last-minute decision to go to the Last Call – Africa Fashion event at the Field Museum was a good one! Not only did I finally see the Africa Fashion exhibit, but I also enjoyed the outfits displayed by other participants. I was one of three or so white guests among 300+ total, and I wore jeans and a white blouse, which made me feel completely inadequate. If not for my friend I called to join me the day before, I would probably feel miserable, but there she was, with her eyes shining, proudly displaying her Ghana costume.

The exhibit (which closes on June 29) is absolutely stunning, but so were the visitors! I regret I didn’t have the courage to ask at least some of them for a photo! Below are the pictures from the exhibition, and I don’t know about you, but I definitely didn’t see anything like that before!

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“Diana” At Theo Ubique Cabaret

Loved it – loved it- loved it!!! Especially because the previous show was a sort of disappointment, this one was soooo good! The story, the music, and each ensemble member!

Fort Sheridan

In the spirit of my recent listen, Embrace Discomfort (5 hours in a semi-wild environment, once a month), I decided to spend one of the days of this long weekend at Fort Sheridan. And the book is just an excuse, although I really liked it! I love going to Fort Sheridan, and I only needed a small push – I knew I would enjoy it! I didn’t spend the whole five hours there, but I had a great time! Surprisingly, it was warmer there than in Rogers Park, or maybe it’s just that the wind was not so strong. And I didn’t even listen to an audiobook or anything – just the birds and the roaring of the waves!

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There Was One Thing I Gave Up…

… when I moved to Rogers Park. The one volunteering activity I stopped doing was nature restoration. For the past two years, however, I thought that I might get involved in the local lae shore restoration, but I didn’t make practical steps; each time I saw a workday ad, it was time I couldn’t make it, but I know that if I “can’t make it” it means that I do not want to make it that much!

So, this Sunday, here I was, learning about new invasives (wild Morning Glory), or bindweed and new natives (silverweed), and pulling out the former, and planting the latter, and planting something in the sand for the first time!

I made connections with other nature volunteers, and learned about other workdays on other beaches, and we agreed that I would be coming to pull out the bindweed whenever I have a moment, because consistency is critical, and because we can’t use pesticides that close to the water…

I know, I know… I am hopeless 🙂

Museum Of Surgical Science

I learned about this museum on WBEZ (the third museum in Chicago, which I discovered on the radio!). It has been on my list for a while, and I had different ideas about with whom I should go there, but I ended up going by myself this Saturday. I really enjoyed this visit, and now I am thinking who I should invite to go with me next time 😀.

It was my first outing with the repaired right eye, and I do not know what exactly changed, but it was way easier for me to read all the signs. Somehow, things stopped duplicating at that distance, and lines stopped running away.

As for the museum itself, I could easily spend twice more time there (which I would probably do next time!) Tons of pictures below.

Blood transfusion history
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And One More Eye Surgery

It’s funny that something that should be a major event in my life is just one of many good things that happened during the last week.

Since the time my left eye became so much better than my right eye after the lens replacement, I knew I wanted to do something with the right eye :). Who would have known things could be so much better! The same surgeon who did my last surgery and who is a true miracle worker, told me he can do Lasik on my right eye, and that was enough for me to say yes! With any other surgeon, I would be skeptical.

It took a while to find the date when the surgery could be done (I had to stop wearing a contact lens five days before, and I was traveling non-stop). I chose May 23, so that the surgery would be “after everything”. Also, I ordered temporary glasses for these several days. It was a complete waste of money, but I was glad I did, because I had five events during these five days! It was still extremely uncomfortable, but I managed 🙂

The surgery itself was very quick and uneventful. (I felt mildly stressed because I had to wait for a long time before they started, but that was it.) I asked not to administer sedatives, because I didn’t want to ask anybody to escort me home. They still gave me a local anasthesia, and everything was fine. It’s weird when you see and feel somebody messing with your eye😀, but not a big deal. I saw better immediately, although it was supposed to happen later. I still feel like my eyes do not work completely together, so it’s like I see with each eye better than with two together, but we will figure it out 🙂

And if you think about it, it’s amazing how much medical science has advanced in recent years!

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As it is clear from my last several posts, I am on my way to “back to normal.” However, something has permanently changed; in some sense, it is a “new normal,” and I am trying to figure out how the past several months have changed me.

One thing is that I feel removed from “ordinary human feelings,” and I am unsure whether this is here to stay with me. Since October last year, I have been so focused on Prairie Postgres that everything else has become non-essential. I blame myself for not contributing to election campaign, not doing canvassing, not talking enough about the issues. I was among many who didn’t do enough. I definitely didn’t have “cycles” for that, but still.

My decision matrix, my Eisenhower quadrants, were skewed to the sole purpose of making sure the Chicago conference happens, and the Chicago community is not negatively affected. I consistently find myself at a loss responding to “how are things with you, what’s new in your life?” I mean people, who might not be my closest friends, but who know me well enough or care enough so that I can’t reply: “All good, thank you for asking.” Still, I understand that it would be the weirdest thing to start answering such questions with what is really on my mind. Because the honest answer would be something like that: “For several months, some people were trying to make my life incredibly difficult to the point I was afraid to check my email, and they were trying to stop me from doing things which were important to me and to my community. There were many times when I wanted to quit and walk out, but I did not give up, and now everything is good, and nobody is after me.” And that’s the first, second and third most important thing in my life.

I know that I didn’t talk enough with many people who care about me, and I care about them. There were several months of ignoring emails, skipping events, and telling myself that I will have time for all of that later. I can only imagine how many of my friends, especially my “remote” friends think that I forgot about them, or that their lives are not interesting to me anymore.

Looking back at the past several months, I do not know how I did it :). When i was at the PGConf.dev, and when I attended multiple meetups last week, many of those to whom I told about my not-for-profits reacted: oh, you got 501(c)?! Congratulations! Or asked me: is it your full time job? So, I guess, I did something good, and something to be proud of.

Still, I want to get back to “being human,” but Prairie Postgres would still remain not “one of the things” I am doing, but “the most important thing” I am going, and hopefully the thing that outlive me :).

Guarneri Hall

One more “first time” this week – I went to a concert at the Guarneri Hall. It’s a shame I didn’t know about its existence until I heard the story on WBEZ. Since then, I have tried to find a concert that I would love to attend, that I could attend, and one that is not sold out! Finally, all stars aligned, and I was there on Thursday!

It is a former recording studio in the heart of the city, with only forty people’s capacity, that delivers an unmatched experience for any music lover. I can’t even describe the difference in the quality of the sound it makes. I sat with my mouth open for the duration of the concert!

It turned out that they have a reception after each concert; I didn’t stay because I didn’t feel right staying for just fifteen minutes and leaving, but I will definitely plan to stay next time.

Thursday was the day when they announced the next season and opened the sales, and I already got two tickets, and now I’m torn between wanting to purchase each and every concert and not wanting to risk wasting money if I won’t be able to attend. I will do one more swap :).

Lower Waker

Super-interesting piece on WBEZ Curious City about the Lower Wacker Drive. Not sure whether anybody outside Chicago would be interested, but copying here just in case somebody does 🙂

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