Election Cookies

About a week ago, Vanille Chicago announced a new line of cookies, and when I saw them, I placed an order immediately. My friend Lena whom I was going to visit and her husband just became US citizens, and the upcoming elections will be the first one for them.

The reason I ordered a couple of Trump cookies and macaroons is that I wanted to have an opportunity to bite his head off!

Lena lives in a Democratic neighborhood, but Michigan is a swing state (which was news for Lena and her husband). They know that their voices are essential, and I hope that there are enough people in Michigan to defeat Trump.

Michigan Central

This weekend, I am visiting Lena in Ann Arbor. As usual, I took a Wolverine train after work, and as usual, it was delayed, but not very bad – just over 20 minutes.

As usual, Lena planned a weekend full of activities, and today, we went to Detroit. Both attractions we visited were jaw-dropping, so I will try to write down everything I remember before the information spills away from my brain.

First, we went to the Michigan Central. This grand train station was opened in December 1913, marking a new era in the history of Detroit. We know what happened seventy-five years later: the cars and air travel diminished the role of the railroads in the USA, and little by little, the Michigan Central started to deteriorate, along with the whole city of Detroit.

In the days of glory (pictures from here)

There are some photos of the abandoned station from the 2000s (taken from here)

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Books

Once again, I didn’t update my Goodreads progress for two months or so, and now I have a long list of books I read without marking them as “currently reading.”

Learning to Love Midlife I know why I picked this book: there was a WBEZ episode with Chip Conley, and it sounded interesting. But the book was disappointing. I know that the older I get, the more I love my life, and I don’t understand why it should be otherwise. In the first half of this book, the author explains why midlife is hard, and then he explains why it should not be. I do not need either of this 🙂

Yoga Life by Brett Larkin – surprisingly good and agreeable with how I perceive yoga (yes, confirmation bias :))

The Devil in the White City by Erik Larson. I am ashamed I only read it now, not twenty years ago when it was first published. Now, it’s a Chicago classic, and it is possible I wouldn’t have enjoyed it that much twenty years ago as I can enjoy and appreciate it now!

Murder by Lamplight. I am not as much of a mystery reader now as I used to be, and this book was a pleasant surprise. I am not sure I will continue reading mysteries, and even less sure I will continue these series, but who knows!

Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir. OMG!!! That was something! So good! This is the book for our Book Club at work. Same as with mysteries (and probably more), I completely lost my previous interest in Sci-Fi. When this book was voted to be the next book in our Book Club, I was extremely disappointed and didn’t even sign up to receive a free copy. But then I decided to give it a try, and I couldn’t take a break from listening to it! One of the best things I read recently!

“Consider The Opposite”

A few weeks ago, I listened to a very interesting episode of “Hidden Brain.” I listen to them almost every Sunday on WBEZ, and I know that most of their podcast episodes are great and discuss unexpected topics. However, that one was especially interesting. I liked it so much that I listened to it one more time to make sure I captured all the details.

In this episode, Shankar Vedantam talks to the economist Alex Edmans, the author of the book May Contain Lies, How Stories, Statistics and Studies Exploit Our Biases and What We Can Do About It. The episode is titled “When the Truth Lies,” and you can say the topic is confirmation bias, but actually, it’s way more than that. Alex Edmans says that we often think about misinformation as something spread by our enemies; however, quite often, we are our own enemies, and we provide false information to ourselves. He talks about “data mining.” I only knew the technical term, but Alex Edmas defines data mining the following way:

Data mining is that you start with a preferred result that you want to find, and then you mine the data, you run the data in so many different ways until you get a positive result. 

He talks about the link between diversity in the company workforce and inability to find a direct link, even though he personally supports diversity:

Absolutely, and this is irrespective of your personal views on the topic. So personally, I believe that diversity is important. It’s an important thing. As an ethnic minority, it’s something which is dear to me. But I believe that as a scientist, you should be like an expert witness in a criminal trial. Your role as a scientist is to state the evidence, just like your role as a witness is to state the evidence clearly irrespective of your views of the issue.

Alex Edmans challenges several statements that the majority of us consider solidly -proven, like the 10,000 hours rule or the importance of breastfeeding for the child’s brain development (you can read all the details following the link above). But then the question comes, how we can combat these confirmation biases. Erdmans suggests using “consider the opposite” rule. Here is how he explains it:

So the consider the opposite idea is to try to get around this problem of confirmation bias. So again, what is confirmation bias? We latch on to something uncritically if it confirms what we want to be true, and we reject something out of hand if we don’t want it to be true. So why is this interesting? Because what it means is that we are able to show discernment. If there’s a study that we don’t like, we can come up with a whole host of reasons for why it’s unreliable. And so what I’m doing with the Consider the Opposite Rule is to try to activate the discernment that we already have and we use selectively for studies that we don’t like, but now apply it to studies that we do like. So maybe just by giving an example, this will come to life. So let’s say I want an excuse after finishing this podcast to drink loads of red wine. So I might look up on Google why red wine is good for your health, and I find studies that people who drink red wine live longer. But consider the opposite. We’ll ask, what if I found the opposite result? People who drink red wine live shorter. How would I try to attack that result? I might say, well, maybe people who drink red wine are poor. They can’t afford champagne. They have to drink red wine instead. And it’s that poverty which leads to a shorter life, not the red wine. Well, but now I’ve alerted myself to the alternative explanation of income being the driver. Then I should ask, is this the driver of the result that I do want? Again, red wine is correlated with longer life. Is it the case that the people who can afford red wine are richer and it’s their wealth that leads to the longer life? So the idea of considering the opposite is to trigger the discernment that we exercise selectively and make sure it’s now universal.

Another technique is exercising your curiosity:

So this is also interesting because often we think that just general knowledge is perhaps a way to avoid misinformation because the smarter we are, the more able we are to separate the weak from the chaff. But unfortunately, this is not the case. There are some studies which actually suggest that knowledge makes things worse because the more sophisticated we are, the more intelligent we are, the easier it is for us to slam evidence we don’t like, and to come up with reasons for why we don’t want to believe it. But again, we deploy this only selectively. We don’t deploy this to the evidence that we do like. So even if knowledge doesn’t work, well, actually curiosity does. So there was a study which looked at the effect of knowledge, found it had no effect, but curiosity did have an effect. So these researchers found that the more curious you were, the more balanced you were on issues such as climate change. In particular, your views in climate change were less linked to your political affiliation. So you were going based on the evidence, not based on your identity.

And now I want to read this book!

State Of Mind

First, there are a lot of stressful things going on in my professional (non-work) life, and I am trying to do two mutually exclusive things: still work on the issues that cause this stress because they should be resolved, and try not to think about them all the time because if I do, I can’t do anything else. Go figure!

Second, all the things going on in the world. I learned from my friend who has relatives in Ukraine in the area close to the war actions that Russian troops retaliated with severe shelling, which lasted for 28 hours. She was very scared for her relatives, and I can’t even imagine how she might feel.

And at the same time, life goes on. Our firm had a summer party today. I was glad that I could sit at the nice rooftop restaurant and relax, which I desperately needed during this super-stressful week. At the same time, I felt ginormous guilt for both relaxing at this rooftop and criticizing the limited selection of food while being aware of what’s going on in other parts of the world … I know it’s pathetic. I know it does not help anybody.

… this rooftop has flowers – right on the rooftop!!! They are planted around and separated from the rest of the floor by glass, and this piece of prairie on the seventeenth floor was one of the most amazing things I saw…

International Film Festival Summer Movies: Radiance

That was something incredible! A Japanese female film director, Naomi Kawase, is almost unknown in the USA despite the impressive body of work she produced and multiple international awards, and that was the first exposure to her work for most of the audience.

For me, the plot of the film was very emotionally resonating: the famous photographer gradually losing his vision, hanging to whatever vision he has left, trying to be independent. Masatoshi Nagase, who plays the main male character, displays all the typical gestures and movements of visually impaired people (the way they check their phones, work on large screens, walk around) with frightening accuracy. I can’t describe how I felt. Also, the typical reactions of others around… One person in the audience mentioned during the after-screening discussion that she worked with visually impaired people and how she was grateful for this movie… It’s amazing. The trailer does not do the movie a justice.

Surprise Visit, Planning, And Spontaneity

On Monday, I had a surprise visit with Anna and the girls. They stopped at my place on their way to John’s family summer house in MI, and I was overjoyed to hear that they were coming. I didn’t have any specific plans for that evening except for finishing several things I hadn’t finished over the weekend, but even if I did, I would rearrange them.

We had an amazing time, partially, I think, because of it being completely unplanned. When I told Boris about this surprise visit, he said that he was glad that Anna trains me in spontaneity. And that is something I want to keep enjoying.

At some point, I became too dependent on my plans and feeling unhappy when things are not going as planned. And while planning is a key to success, I always remember the day when I had my first ultrasound which revealed that I was having twins. To my gloomy: That’s a little bit unplanned, the technician replied: Sometimes unplanned economy can be very successful! She was alluding to the “socialist planned economy” v.s. “capitalist unplanned economy,” which made it especially funny. Yep, the most unplanned thing in my life was the best thing ever happened to me!

Nadia made a picture of an ice cream for me 🙂

Sisi And I – The Movie

Saw it in Siskel Center today, and I didn’t like it. One thing is that I didn’t expect that much of the diversion of the historic image of Sisi. Another thing is that the whole story didn’t look convincing. And the third thing is that, once again, I thought about “people who have nothing to do with their lives and thereby focus on love affairs.” Recently, I have felt like this way too often; maybe it’s a part of getting older, or maybe it just plainly means that I am too old for any romance…

The Weather In Chicago And How It Can Go Wrong

I figured out that until the season is over, I should try to incorporate the early morning swimming into my schedule at least twice a week, and Monday was a very convenient day to try. I was out of the house as planned. It was cloudy, but there shouldn’t have been any problem with that. However, Just a couple of minutes after I started walking, I heard the thunder. There was not a drop of rain, but I thought it still didn’t sound like a good idea and returned home.

I took a shower, got dressed, and thought if wearing shorts to the office was a good idea (and decided against it). At the very last moment, I decided to take an umbrella with me, just in case.

When I was in the courtyard, some drops of rain fell, and five minutes later, it started raining for real. In two more minutes, it was a legit Chicago rain, and it made absolutely no difference whether I had an umbrella or not! I didn’t take my sandals off right away, and in a minute, it made no difference either – I walked in the water to my ankle level. By the time I reached the train station, the only dry piece of clothing I had was my underwater. When I got on a train, I didn’t even think I should sit down. A passenger in front of me was making space, and I told him: I am all wet! He said it was not a problem, so I sat down, trying to maintain the distance.

I pulled my reading glasses out of a wet backpack pocket, only to realize there was not a single piece of dry clothes on me or in my backpack to clean them. And then, I heard the sounds of raindrops on the car window, and it sounded like they were made of iron (and no, it was not hail!).

When I came to the office, I realized I had made a mistake not trying to dry myself up at the train station bathroom: we do not have dryers! Fortunately, I had a change of gym clothes in my drawer, so throughout the day, I changed different pieces of my clothes to activewear pieces and hung the wet pieces on my chair to dry them up. I also put some paper inside my sandals and changed them often before finally letting them air dry.

I thought that I still had time at least to dip myself into the lake after work (although I had a number of other things to do!) But when I came to the beach, there were high waves, and the red flag was up, and the lifeguards were on duty!

I still sat there on the beach, and I even walked into the water to meet the waves by the shore, and got myself as wet as it was possible! I am proud of myself that I didn’t get upset about things not turning us as planned:)

Work-Life Balance:)

I worked from home on Friday, and it was surprisingly good. Most times, my attempts to work from home result in frustration: I spend time prepping my meals and doing something around the house, thereby spending less time on work activities and thereby not being able to step away for a bike ride or for a beach break. Since I started working at my current company, each time I tried to work at home during Boris’ visits, I would regret it and resent not doing work and not doing non-work.

But last Friday was different, and now I want to build on this positive experience. I think that the perfect start of the day was the decisive factor: I did strength training first thing in the morning, then Boris and I went swimming, and when we were done, I ordered a takeout breakfast at Charmers. It’s a little bit over a ten-minute walk from the beach, so our order was ready just in time. We ate breakfast at home, and I started my workday right after that. It was a little bit later start time than my usual, but that was fine with everyone, and then I could work without interruptions. It was a very busy day, I had to service three internal customers simultaneously, and I was up to the challenge.

We had lunch together, and I was able to finish my workday at 4:30, so we had time to bike afterward and do a couple of other things. As I said, I hope to reproduce this success in the future.

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The weekend was doing nothing in the best possible way – a long bike ride, more lake, and me cooking our favorite dishes. Boris hinted that in Finland, they eat salmon soup even when it’s hot outside, so I made some.

I also made tiramisu, and we ate it all 🙂

It was too hot for outdoor activities at midday (at least for Boris), so we spent a lot of time just sitting inside and talking. It was great since I constantly feel that we do not have enough time for that, and I do not want to put my life on hold until retirement!